Comments on: If You're a Muslim Convert, Read This.

By: Inez j

Inez j — Mon, 08 Jun 2015 13:02:19 +0000

Was the book ever finished? I would love to read it as I’m looking up info to convert.

By: Andrea Galindo

Andrea Galindo — Sat, 03 Aug 2013 05:37:18 +0000

How can a women being a single parent and a convert be accepted into a Muslims mans family as his wife?

By: Tacy

Tacy — Tue, 25 Dec 2012 16:26:09 +0000

As a teen convert, I found it hard to give up haram relationships.

By: lalahem

lalahem — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 22:29:12 +0000

In reply to W.

Socializing with family/friends that drink. Question: do you drink? answer is probably no. Funny thing is that drinkers want everyone to be drinking so as not to feel guilty, but we are admonished to not drink. so don’t. and don’t feel obligated to run with a big long explanation. just say, no thanks. the smell of alcohol in the air won’t ruin your deen, it’s about moderation. I don’t drink. I don’t serve alcohol at functions that are in my home or arranged by me. I don’t feel obligated to serve people that do drink alcohol. If you can’t enjoy yourself without an ‘adult beverage’ well, we’ll miss you. If I am at a function and there is alcohol served, I simply don’t drink it. If a fellow guest gets obnoxious, I avoid that person, or leave, as it suits me. You know what your boundaries are, enforce them.

By: Heather

Heather — Sun, 09 Dec 2012 04:09:45 +0000

May Allah bless your work! InshaAllah this project is coming along well!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 06 Dec 2012 15:39:04 +0000

Asalamualaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barkatu,

Masha’Allah! Have been waiting 12 years for this book! HURRY!

Lisa

P.S. Was starting think I’d have to write my own. Raising kids is a full time job, and I was unable to do the source checking you are promising to embark upon. May allah make it easy.

By: Penelope looking

Penelope looking — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 04:52:33 +0000

I know this is late, but the first sister said somethings that I believe are an issue as well as the second sister. Many new converts feel that Muslims are so busy telling you rules and how you should be/act/ etc that you lose your iman. I agree with this. The hijab “issue” is always brought up as well.
My main question that I would love for you to answer, even if not in the book is.. How do sisters who have converted protect themselves for marriage. How does the marriage contract work, what should we ask for, how much is too much money, what if the brother wants to marry us but is going through financial difficulties? Do we still marry him even if he cannot give us what we ultimately were wanting as part of the marriage contract?

By: W

Fri, 03 Jun 2011 11:05:04 +0000

In reply to dpeat. Asalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu, Should I avoid socializing in the homes of family and friends who drink alcohol? If I have a family, is that something to be concerned about introducing them to an environment where there is alcohol or where alcohol may be consumed.

By: dpeat

dpeat — Thu, 20 Jan 2011 11:13:42 +0000

Subhan’Allah, amazing idea Sh. Suhaib. I’ll try to think of some thoughts/questions and send them to you.

By: jetLagged

*jetLagged* — Thu, 20 Jan 2011 03:07:53 +0000

Assalaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh 🙂

I know I am kind of late to this conversation but I thought I’d add my two cents.

When I converted to Islam, there were two major things that I would have loved help with—–>

1) how to deal with the rigidity present within our Ummah (e.g. only focusing on halal/haram and not one’s personal/spiritual development and kindness…….the focus on the black and white issues kind of zaps one’s iman after a while) and avoiding deviant or hardhearted sects.

2) How to deal with social issues such as loneliness and isolation as a convert……even after years of being muslim, it still sucks to ignored/eyed suspiciously at masjid events…even if you are actively trying to be outgoing and friendly. But I guess this is more of a human element rather than an islamic issue.

May Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala help you to write and publish this book 🙂 Its sorely needed!

Your sister in Islam,

*JetLagged*