Nicely worded. Thank you.

MashaAllah I couldn’t agree more! We’re so (unnecessarily) hard on ourselves sometimes. It’s okay to feel bad, repent, and work to improve ourselves. Many of us (like myself) would sometimes have a hard time to forgive ourselves, thinking that we must be “perfect” at all times. Allah swt is The Most Forgiving because He knows we will make mistakes. We are not angels. But we are honored when we admit our flaws, apologize, and strive not to repeat the sin.

Also, please notify what if that person is my spouse or to-be spouse?

Assalamu Alaikum,

Can anyone help me by answering this question of mine?

What if i’ve committed a sin and someone asks me whether i’ve done it or not? Should i tell a lie saying that i haven’t done anything like this? And if i hide it from them, they might take it as an affirmation anyway.

Al-Bayhaqee relates from Ibn ‘Umar radiallaahu ‘anhu that AlIaah’s Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “For everything there is a polish, and the polish for the hearts is the dhikr (remembrance) of Allah. There is nothing more potent in saving a person from the punishment of Allah than the dhikr of Allah.” It was said: Not even Jihaad in the path of Allah. So he replied: “Not even if you were to continue striking with your sword until it breaks.”
From http://www.missionislam.com/knowledge/polishingheart.html

Abdullah ibn Umar narrated, “Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) said, ‘Some hearts become rusty just as iron does when water affects it.’ On being asked what could clear them he replied, ‘A great amount of remembrance of death and recitation of the Quran.’ (Tirmidhi)
From http://quranislam.org/

And in the Qur’an:

In Al-Baqarah, 2:152-157,
152. Therefore remember Me (by praying, glorifying, etc.). I will remember you, and be grateful to Me (for My countless Favours on you) and never be ungrateful to Me.
153. O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer). Truly! Allah is with As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).

And also in Al-Kahf, 18:28,
28. And withhold yourself with those who call on their Lord morning and evening desiring His goodwill, and let not your eyes pass from them, desiring the beauties of this world’s life; and do not follow him whose heart We have made unmindful to Our remembrance, and he follows his low desires and his case is one in which due bounds are exceeded.

And in Al-Baqarah, 2:268-269,
268. Shaitan (Satan) threatens you with poverty and orders you to commit Fahsha (evil deeds, illegal sexual intercourse, sins etc.); whereas Allah promises you Forgiveness from Himself and Bounty, and Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knower.
269. He grants Hikmah (wisdom) to whom He pleases, and he, to whom Hikmah (wisdom) is granted, is indeed granted abundant good. But none remember (will receive admonition) except men of understanding.

And in Al-Nisaa, 4:26-28,
26. Allah desires to explain to you, and to guide you into the ways of those before you, and to turn to you (mercifully), and Allah is Knowing, Wise.
27. And Allah desires that He should turn to you (mercifully), and those who follow (their) lusts desire that you should deviate (with) a great deviation.
28. Allah desires that He should make light your burdens, and man is created weak.

Beginning with myself, we need to strengthen our relationship with Allah, in Salat and with the Qur’an. Never underestimate the power of dua’. Maintain the company of the righteous, no matter how ashamed a person may feel, as it is a trick of Shaytan to make us abandon good company.

Instead of big but short-lived improvements, we need to focus on small, but consistent improvements in our hearts and our actions. Below are some serious reflections and advice on avoiding the countless haram, countless weak, rootless filth that tries to make us fail time and time again. May Allah grant you and me and all of us forgivenesss and mercy, purify our hearts and make us steadfast on guidance. Ameen.

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Mash’Allah nice post.