With all that have been said, I have a question though.
Since Allah knows best what’s good for us, why do we still need to keep asking when we have already prayed and work our way through for something to happen, yet Allah doesn’t answer? I mean, why the need to pin hope and continue praying when the answer that Allah knows best whats good or not good for us is already there?
I guess this is how much I have ‘lost hope/faith in doa. ” and just letting Allah do what He wants of me.

I’m muskim grl. I’m depressd and have lost hope plz help me 🙁 I feel like dying

Ahmed,

I was once in your situation until finally, Allah answered my prayers to an extent it opened doors that I never imagined. I even felt so naive when I realised what I was paraying for and what Allah has given me Alhamdullilah.

Now, what did I do?

First, I increased my sunnah prayers after the five daily prayers (including nightly prayers)with more concentration (Qushoo’) at times crying in the process.

Second, I started giving more sadaqa while also increasing my awareness around me in relation to the world, infact, this made me more humbled as I realised there were more people suffering more than me in the world and that I had to thank Allah for the things that I took for granted.

Finally, I was coming frequently to forums like this praying for others in distress. I believe if you want Allah to grant you an answer to your du’a then it will be proper to do so for others.

We also have to be cognizant that some of the problems we face, is due to Allah wanting us to be better people and be less arrogant. It’s human problem that when we are not afflicted with problems we tend to forget our obligations. So brothers/sisters let us all supplicate for this brother and others including me who are having difficult times to be eased by Allah and solve them in a better way the He alone understands.

20 years? Marriage is a dying institution…

I too have asked Allah for my dua to be answered for 20years and once I thought I achieved it, it was taken from me.
However, my thinking on life has changed.
I know that Allah only tests and withholds things from the ones He Loves. So indeed I see it as a blessing that a calamity hit me.

So how do I cope day in day out with my situation?
I think about the bigger picture. I know this life is short and I thank Allah I have no attachments to make me love the Dunya. When the biggest thing you fear happens to you it’s amazing how much you detest this Dunya. Then and only then did I understand this phrase : The worldly comforts are not for me. I am like a traveller, who takes a rest under a tree in the shade and then goes on his way.
I also DISTRACT myself and try to appreciate what I do have. It is very hard and don’t let anyone tell you that your hardship is not as difficult as others. Each persons hardship is different. One mans test is another mans dream. I take each day as it comes and I keep making dua for the same thing but now I care less about this life. I know it’s not for me. I try to lead a good life and I’m going to try and help those less fortunate.
I’m living proof you can recover from your greatest fear.
The most important thing I can say is never lose your faith. It can be hard but don’t let this prevent you from a place in Jannah. This test will make or break you.

SubhanaAllah! Your words touched me so much. I needed this right now. And I am full agree with all you said my sister, Maryam. Jizakallahu khayr!