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By: Reblog: “Mommy Myths” « Hanna Wilbur's

Reblog: “Mommy Myths” « Hanna Wilbur's — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 01:59:37 +0000

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By: Iris

Iris — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 23:13:37 +0000

JazakAllah for the insightful discourse. I would like to add that mothers should Make an effort by themselves to not become martyrs…from the time that children start to be a bit understanding (starting teens) they should be assigned tasks and responsibilities….the husband should be encouraged to help out as much as possible too, most mothers feel that love needs to be shown through constant chores and ‘mothering’ basically….but they should have good confidence and self esteem in that making their family help out and not being the martyr won’t decrease their value as a mother…
Also, like mentioned in this article…it’s very important for a mother(just like for every other human being) to be able to take time out for hobbies and creative activities, relaxation, exercise etc…it will bring a sense of well being which is like so essential for everyone in general..

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By: ummnrz

ummnrz — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 12:28:30 +0000

Will be good to see an article telling the husbands how to help their wives in implementing these in their lives. As without the support of the spouse a mother can’t do the things she would want to – like time to herself, time with friends…..sometimes mothers are burdened by the task of parenting and the balance on the scales is way off, so no surprise that it’s a give give but no take (or nourish) opportunity…
Good article, but putting it into practice and making it work, requires a lot more effort AND cooperation – from everyone in the household – fathers included!

By: fatima

fatima — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 23:37:39 +0000

maashaa`alaah. i love this and it will actually help me becuse i was in a very danger position. when i become a mother i forgot every thing including my marriage and i didn`t know i was making a big mistake, now i know a lot alxamdulilaah, i can be a mother a wife and friend.
thank you very much.

By: Amir Syafrudin

Amir Syafrudin — Fri, 27 May 2011 09:51:46 +0000

Assalamu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

This article are inspiring. I agree with point 1 to 4 because I already support my wife to go to these directions. 5 is quite new for me. I didn’t really noticed the importance for my wife to share her motherhood with her friends aside from myself. Point 6 are still partially implemented in my household.

I made a translation of this article to Bahasa Indonesia and published it in my blog. I also made reference to this original article in my blog post. I sincerely hoped the author won’t mind for the spirit of sharing. I know there will be a lot of Indonesian Muslim mothers who will benefit from this article, especially when translated to Bahasa Indonesia.

Thank you.

Wassalamu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

By: Izhar Khan

Izhar Khan — Fri, 27 May 2011 05:48:45 +0000

And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship And she brings him forth with hardship, and the bearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty months, till when he attains full strength and reaches forty years, he says: “My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your Favor which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds, such as please You, and make my off-spring good. Truly, I have turned to You in repentance, and truly, I am one of the Muslims (submitting to Your Will).”

By: amina

amina — Wed, 25 May 2011 08:00:41 +0000

In reply to TwoUnderTwo.

Assalamu aliakum,i think what your husband is trying to say by “i dont want a mother as a wife”is that,he does not want a woman that will directly tell him what,when,and how to do things or go about on things,not that he he dislikes mothers or anything.As a wife we should always mind the manner in which we speak to our husbands without showing any authourity.i must say, marriage life is not as easy as it is written in the quran…but Alhamdulilah a’la kulehalin,for it been an act of ibadah…just my thought…may Allah continue to guide us all ameen.

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 19 May 2011 01:37:01 +0000

The words are very inspiring, and I aspire to have a relationship with my husband whereby he grants me the ABILITY to have time, as much extra and free time as he does, so that I CAN take care of myself, have and enjoy friends, and avoid feelings of martyrdom. Then I would be able to give 100% more to my relationship with him and avoid feelings of mothering him as well. I work two jobs to his one. Don’t get me wrong, I value motherhood and my child and his children. I would like to see as pointed out above more articles written that focus on women’s rights and the obligations of men. There is too much focus on the reverse. Also, if there was more focus on this, maybe young men wouldn’t have such a hard time finding wives. I know I wouldn’t get married again in todays soceity knowing what I know now. Young women are afraid of the responsibility as they know they will have to go it alone, even if they work because he can’t support the family financially. They look at the examples in soceity around them. Anyway, maybe one day I will be able to attain peace in my daily struggle with motherhood. Children with disabilities also add so much more to the equation.

By: sara

sara — Wed, 18 May 2011 22:10:31 +0000

In reply to Kagome23. The article is beautifully written and we are not critising it at all. Kagome you have put forward a reality of whats going on in a substantial number of muslim households . I dont know what is the solution to it. I am a victim of similar situation and still in the marriage so that the children get to have fathre figure in their lives.