I pray ALLAH SWT returns him to you in the best of ways and for the very best of reasons.

Salam sister. I pray you are out of the painful situation and have found your peace of heart insha’Allah. If you ever need to reach out to a Muslim sister, please don’t hesitate to contact me via my blog.

thankyou very much.

Stockport, England. Thank you for your comments on Part 2 of Yasmin’s article.I think it is in our hearts Roxy, the loss that is.The writer is thoughtful.so thoughtful,she looks at her own earlier distress and seeks its causes.I found that very act of my ex-wife’s wanting to divorce me painful enough to shatter my dreams of the good &conscientious work done on a smallholding of land and as you may agree with work * youth come degrees of hope & idealism.I even left America and came back to England. Now I appreciate that this is not akin to having one’s husband cruelly murdered and one’s child in distress..After a year or two I met someone who smiled and whose eyes shone in my company,again I worked but alas she died thousands of miles away whilst working as a teacher.I remember the small things like a camp site in Northern England near a footbridge over a river.We had our washing drying on a line in the clean air.To such people as came walking over the footbridge we offered hospitality and courteous conversation if addressed.It has always seemed to me that one of the greatest of Allah’s blessings is the very daylight itself and certainly the natural world.I am far from practicing the requisite daily prayers tho’ I am sure this is because of the work I,m called to do by others, even my daughter who now is 20yrs and a student.You see I tried a third time and yet her mother, for her own reasons, left us when our child was l5 months old, I have to believe that the author of the article understands more than I do why with hardship comes ease, for the truth is one does turn to Allah with such perceived losses.I went about cleaning up polluted fishing ponds, or sweeping neglected lanes where blackbirds feed, yet people disposed of their trash.I might not have the appropriate scholarly things to say or answers to your valid questions, but I do think that as a community of believers we should stand in support of others’ distress.I imagine your own experiences will have given you much compassion for any of your brothers and sisters who have experienced similar loss.May your family be well & help you as the God given days go by. Your brother Inshallah in Islam. Brian Cokayne. N.England

Allah is all knowing, all merciful. Remember the hadith which says that ALLAH LOVES HIS SLAVES MORE THAN A MOTHER LOVES HER CHILD.

Allah is not there to see us suffer. When He gives us a test, He will definitely bring us through it. Allah wants us to be near to Him, by elevating our ranks through the trials and tribulations. What matters is the way we respond to these tests.

About those who committed suicide, most likely they lacked their trust in Allah. We as muslims need to put our trust in Allah, make constant dua to him for the strength. Insyallah the pain of this life will end, soon we’ll be in His heaven and everything will be fine.