“Unquestionably, help of Allah is near” – Quran 2:214

Salaam Imtiaz,

The scenario you described does not seem to be fair. Thankfully this is not the way things happen.

Allah created us, and He is the Most Merciful towards us. Before He even asks us to do anything, He showers on us for more than a decade with unaccountability, love and protection. Only when we hit puberty are we obligated to do things. And even when we are obligated, He does not burden us more than we can bear. When a mother helps the child to walk, the child may not understand why she is doing that. Why doesn’t she just carry him? Why is she making him undergo hardship when he didn’t have a choice in that? And why does she take him to be injected with a needle to be vaccinated? We understand why a mother does this- for the child’s own good. It is hardship. But no one would say it is not fair. We know she does this out of love. The child does not understand, but the mother knows that good is waiting at the end.
Allah is far above analogy, but this is just to show that sometimes we do not understand the wisdom of things, but when we know we have a Merciful and Wise Lord, those hardships cannot be but with a purpose.

As the statement for some are so lucky and they get everything that they want, that is a very surface view of things. What is ‘everything’? Everyone goes through hardship and struggle to varying degrees. You have actors who have ‘everything’ but are living a life of depression and commit suicide. So we need to define, what is ‘everything’. The grass is always greener on the other side. Moreover, as Muslims, the more we have in this world, the more we will accountable for in the Hereafter.

Allah is Just. If someone is doing ‘wrong things to survive’- truly to survive- then Allah will deal with him with His Mercy and Justice. Omar bin al-Khattab suspended the punishment for stealing during a famine, because the situation was so bad that people would be forced to steal. This is from the mercy of the shariah.

What faith gives you is an internal strength that enables you to deal with external hardships. It does not mean that you will not feel the pinch. But you will be able to overcome it inshAllah.

I hope this helps.

I also dont understand why we are sent to this world we didnt apply to enter un this exam we r unwilliningly forced to enter in this world n give the hard ship exam. On top Some people r so Lucky they get every thing they want in this world. On top if they r obiedient to Allah they will get haven in both sides. And if someone who is poor n doing wrong things to survive in this world he will be sufferng both sides of the world. This is not fair.

Salaam anonymous

I hope you’re well. I’m really sorry to hear about your misdiagnosis. I pray that you recover and any discomfort you face is expiation for you and a raising of your station. Ameen.

When things go wrong for us, it is natural to wonder whether it is a punishment or test from Allah. But in reality it doesn’t matter because there is no sure way of knowing. What matters is, if you know that you did wrong, is to return to Allah. Allah says in the Qur’an:

“And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves [by transgression], remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins – and who can forgive sins except Allah ? – and [who] do not persist in what they have done while they know.” [Qur’an, 3:135]

Allah also tells us:

“Say, “O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” [Qur’an, 39:53]

If the hardship you are facing is causing you to reflect and turn back to Allah, then that is good. Allah tells us in the Qur’an that He WANTS to accept our repentance- meaning all we have to do is repent.

I hope this helps.

I’ve a friend in the midst of a great trial and tribulation of their life. And similar to Anonymous duas expectations not just gone unfulfilled but instead an outcome far from desired, my friend’s duas too have had a devastating effect. She prayed to Allah (SWT) to raise the status of All the children far above and beyond her own child’s as the blessings were bountiful. It was the sincerest dua from her heart and within few years later, her child’s destiny just shattered into pieces. So much so, the child’s hands have slipped from her grasp and other than duas, there is no other way to reach out to the soul and mind. I too ask why did this happen? Did her dua become the very test for her of how kind and sincere she was in her wish. She feels maybe her dua was wrong as she see her child suffering a terrible fate.