Comments on: Self-Worth: Take it from The Source

By: FRitz

FRitz — Sat, 31 Oct 2015 15:39:05 +0000

I think the article completely glosses over the fact that the “cost of marriage” in many of these countries is insanely high. Whilst many men are struggling to find a job, the few that can simply cant afford to get married as the girl demands a perfect wedding and house kitted out with full mod-cons. Ok some of this may pressured by the bride’s family aswell.

These social problems are also killing the society you mentioned. It is not by coincidence that the Prophet (saw) stressed the importance of focusing on taqwa for marriage and ensuring couples married at a young age (as was reasonably possible). Amazingly deep insight.

By: alaa

alaa — Fri, 30 Oct 2015 18:31:17 +0000

one of the best articles ive read mashaAllah.

By: r

Fri, 30 Oct 2015 14:32:24 +0000

What I needed to hear not in this context but my focus on life should be my creator! Not anyone else or anything else! Much needed reminder for me in a time I’m feeling like a lost puppy!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 21 Nov 2013 03:27:37 +0000

Re-reading this article, I realize that this awful, awful societal problem of complete and disgusting disrespect for women has permeated the street culture in my country as well. It’s really saddening, because it often becomes used as an argument against hijab, because people become furious with the arguments and excuses that are used for this disgusting behavior, such as saying ‘she’s not wearing a hijab, I can catcall her, she deserves it’, not realizing that this all too soon turns into ‘she’s wearing a niqab, who does she think she is, hiding everything, she deserves it’. Unthinkable to you? I wear full hijab, that the strictest of people could not find fault with, and I found that walking on the street could often turn into a fight for your safety and dignity. How could people claim to be following Islam by making women terrified of walking the streets?

By: Fatima

Fatima — Mon, 03 Jun 2013 17:34:45 +0000

In reply to Sarah.

To all the sisters who’ve given me advice; my heartfelt and deepest thanks to all of you. Alhamdu lillah with Allah’s help and mercy, my condition has improved. I still have a long ways to go, but all of your comments boosted my motivation(and I still reread them if I need another boost). May Allah reward you all immensely and bless you all in this life and the next.

Words aren’t enough to capture my gratitude, thank you all very very much.

By: sister u

sister u — Thu, 16 May 2013 23:58:41 +0000

In reply to Fatima.

The Qur’anic ayah you were asking about above: And, indeed, the punishment of the hereafter is biggest, if only they knew.

It is a loose translation (I’ve been learning Arabic for some years).

By: fatima

fatima — Tue, 14 May 2013 18:15:07 +0000

Alhumdulilah Ukhtee for your stance in this article.Self-Worth isexactly what it boils down to.it seems to me we are also reaching for non-modest beauty standards advertised by the media and the shaytaan influenced media or “tricknology”as they call it,fools the brothers into thinking the dress of women is solely for their entertainment purposes.we have been set back by almost 1500 years for Allah sent our nabi Muhammed saaws to teach us and show us our true status as anNisa .alhumdulilah may Allah bless you for your good work Sis ameen

By: Kirana

Kirana — Fri, 10 May 2013 11:18:03 +0000

In reply to Fatima.

yeah I’ve been there. i’m not sure whether you are jealous of the attention they get for their appearance, or the relationships they are able to attract from males.

for the former, the best i can tell you is to persevere, because in not too long you will live long enough to see that this kind of attention fades and had no deep meaning; there is nothing to be missed, and much danger.

the latter is by far the harder envy to overcome, because humans crave relationship with others as fitrah. this envy eats at you, making you feel that you cannot be loved, making you despair that God can give you the partner you will be pleased with, because you are discontented over not having what your friends have. it will eventually create a wound in you that badly craves fulfilment by attachment to another human rather than merely seeking it as fitrah.

you have to work on the sufficiency of your own character, drawing from Allah alone, completely trusting that you will not ever be left alone for He will provide you with someone, or with Himself. a person of purpose who is not craving the intimacy of another, is able to be gifted with a mate who also has purpose and is whole. if you are not whole, then you could be given another who is also not whole, in order to learn to depend on Him the hard way. and then if you do learn, you might have to move on from that person if he has not also learned – very heartbreaking.

expand your circle of friends, seek people who have as the centre of their lives a higher purpose, take up martial arts and other activities that can expand your perspective and help you build a whole self. hope that works out; trust me, the hard way is painful and wastes your best years.

By: Hujrah Wahhaj

Hujrah Wahhaj — Thu, 09 May 2013 19:24:13 +0000

I once looked for validation in all the wrong people and places only to be left feeling empty and frustrated. It wasn’t until I really began to research who my Lord is and all His capabilities that I fell in Love with Him. The more I loved Him the more he validated me and the more He validated me the less attention, validation, and approval I needed from others. I now feel whole, complete, full and loved by Allah and I’ve never been at so much peace. If you really want to find peace through Allah’s validation you need to know/research who He is and what better way to do so than from Quran and Sunnah! Excellent article. I enjoyed it immensely!

By: Yaqub

Yaqub — Sat, 04 May 2013 14:49:32 +0000

One of the BEST articles I’ve ever read on SuhaibWebb.com.

Thank you for sharing the knowledge and viewpoint with us!