Comments on: 30 Something

By: rahyle

rahyle — Thu, 28 Mar 2013 20:29:44 +0000

may allah keep you for your family and for us but itstill to oblige the children to pray a problem especially when they feel that we follow them during the five prayers

By: inaliah

inaliah — Tue, 18 Dec 2012 02:43:57 +0000

this is a good article.

through my life, i think children who did not discipline to pray during their childhood, would not feel solah is important. and there is tendency for them to pray only if they want.

further divide the years in life, the first seven years, not to hit the child. next seven years, taught them with discipline. hit if not pray. hitting not to harm them. hit in a way to teach them. the last seven years, treat a child like a friend.

By: Greene

Greene — Wed, 12 Dec 2012 14:40:44 +0000

I though the term ” hit them ” did not mean a light spanking, I thought it meant be forceful so that the child knows the importance of praying and won’t take it lightly if he/ she misses it. With our kid, if they fail to come to pray they are not spanked but they are withheld from playing games or watching tv or their DS is confiscated!
There was a teenage girl who complained o the British authorities that her parents were hitting her for not praying, so the girl was put into social care until they thought that the girl would not be mistreated for not praying. This also goes to show that we can only do so much for our kids, at the end of the day it’s Allah who guides our kids and us.
I also know of muslim parents who were not praying, but learnt from their son who became Islamic from the friends he kept, so with Allahs mercy, he taught his parents to pray regularly.

By: Gibran

Gibran — Tue, 11 Dec 2012 20:00:14 +0000

In reply to Trent.

Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

I think the way he said it was somewhat confusing. The order to get children to pray wasn’t “oh children, pray” but instead “get your children to pray.”

I think that is what he is saying…

By: kg6

kg6 — Mon, 10 Dec 2012 13:04:55 +0000

In reply to Sister. this is a few years later now but you have to think that in the medinah at the time of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam it was normal for people to marry at age 30 if they were a woman and people had more than one wife aswell. Nowadays people have different ideas about marriage but if there is a man that you like and he is muslim and good etc then you can propose to him there is no problem...but if you wait for someone to propose to you then maybe you should tell people ie friends or family that you want them to help you find someone.

By: Trent

Trent — Sun, 09 Dec 2012 21:05:41 +0000

I don’t understand. The hadith is not saying to hit them at ten if they do not pray but to hit who?

By: ubah

ubah — Sun, 09 Dec 2012 17:15:45 +0000

You do *not* have to be in your 30s and/or married to benefit from this piece! It put tears in my eyes; I never viewed the above hadith in such a manner.

Jazakum Allahu khairan!

By: Sister Maryam

Sister Maryam — Sat, 08 Dec 2012 13:18:44 +0000

Thank you Imam Webb,
Your insightful khutbahs and articles always leave me thinking and inspired. I am also an American Muslim convert in my thirties and although we don’t have children yet, someday insh’Allah, I appreciate your moderate views on this topic while taking the points that apply to me (i.e. being more disciplined about my praying) as well as practicing what I preach into consideration.
I attended the Friday prayer on 12712 and left feeling rejuvenated. I sincerely appreciate your insight and contribution to the community.
Sincerely,
Sister Maryam

By: shabeena

shabeena — Fri, 07 Dec 2012 20:31:33 +0000

As-salamu Alaikum,
Jazakallahu khair. I like the idea of encouraging kids to go to masjid for salah, as opposed to taking them for taraweeh and leaving them in the baby sitting. Baby sitting makes them feel that Ramadhan is enjoying cartoons, etc. They are then not given the love of Qiraat, from early on. Jazakallahu khair for the beautiful thoughts.

By: Yasmin

Yasmin — Fri, 07 Dec 2012 19:18:19 +0000

Jazakallah khair for this great post! May Allah (swt) bless us all with pious Muslim children!