Its easy to be intimidated as a new convert. You feel like an infant having to learn a new language, mannerisms, and still trying to strengthen your relationship with Allah. I often feel like some of my fellow sisters are a little stand offish.

Dear brother Mark,

I am so sorry for what have happened to you during your struggle as a ‘revert muslim’, yet believe me, both kind of muslims (whether born or revert) perhaps have the same struggle, ignorance, as well as hardness as life is basically a trial. I used to live in NZ as a born Muslim. It was harder as I accepted ignorance and discrimination too against ‘western society’ yet I decided to be strong, so I never think over too much about what people said to me or what to wear (I am a Muslimah who had received a letter told me to leave the country a.k.a. NZ). I decided to firmly step on the ground, relying only to Allah SWT to save me and other muslimahs who live in ‘non-muslim’ countries. The teachings of Islam is about compassion and tolerance, both against our muslims brothers and sisters as well as non-muslims. So, my advice is just be strong and keep learning about Islam. InshaAllah, there is always a way. Wassalamu alaykum.

I am not very confident on the statistics of the mass leaving. Sounds like a vague thing with a purpose.
Nevertheless, one cannot deny that this could be happening on a smaller scale. I am strongly with the opinion of giving the new converts all that can help them in this not s easy journey. Its an obligation upon the Muslim community, a collective obligation on each and every Muslim in the community, not just the organizations. Learn from the Sirah of the prophet SAW and his companions, pen your houses and accept them like the Ansar of Madinah did with the Muhajireen of Makkah. Give them guidance, warmth of brotherhood, work, food, shelter, and good spouses. Empower them and make them feel at home, they are indeed an invaluable asset for the community that need some incubation period in the beginning, before they can contribute with many many folds back to the community.

Alhamdulillah, after lots of pray from my family and friend, my husband and me also; a Muslim organization in my husband’s country introduce us to a very good Muslim friend, whom my husband respects so much. The Muslim friend even went to the train station near my husband’s house to visit my husband personally, he even take my husband to a nearby halal restaurant and mosque. He even messages my husband to wake him up for Fajr prayer, always listening to my husband’s problem and giving good advice that my husband can take.

This is what i always, always wished for my revert husband for a long, long time – a good Muslim friend, who really care to visit him personally. Most people that i ask always just give their advice through me – “please, don’t advice me, but instead what i hope is that you yourself talk to him, visit him,” that’s what i always say in heart. Most people will just ask him to go to the mosque etc; he did went to mosque, but as Paul in the above comments said, nobody approach him or talk to him, even how many times he went there.

But, i also think, when we want to make new friends, we need to make the effort – we need to approach, we need to be don’t mind even they talk other languages, we need to try to know them personally. It’s hard making new friends, especially for non-extrovert like me. As a sister said in the first comment above, born muslims are just people like you – they’re not holy. All Muslims are siblings but not all are your friends – this is true : we need to make effort to know the person if we want to make friends. Just think of it like making new friends, click with ones that you feel you like them. You don’t need to be friends with all of them. We’re just human beings.

Can you help me please

Thank you for your sentiments. However, of all those who first embrace Islam, how many of them leave? I have heard and read repeatedly that the dropout / apostasy rate of converts in North America is actually appallingly high. Many get very disillusioned and leave in one way or another.