Comments on: A Bundle of Peace, Mercy, and Blessings

By: Angela Franzen

Angela Franzen — Mon, 13 Mar 2017 03:36:25 +0000

Salam alaikum Rwb,
My name is Sister Angela, and I have been a American convert to Islam for about 10 or 11 years alhamdilah, since the age of 16 after reading the chapter surah all bakara’ I knew I ought to be Muslim one day inshallah. And here iam no family, nor Muslim friends, etc but a believer in islam by Allah’s mercy subhanallah….
This article was exactly how I was feeling, and I’m alone no support fighting to survive… Ya rub
Ty sis for giving this article to the web, so I could come across it, very proud of you sis for spreading the knowledge:):) jazak Allah khaired

By: I’m Better Than That | SEEKING TO BETTER

I’m Better Than That | SEEKING TO BETTER — Tue, 03 Jun 2014 16:11:27 +0000

[…] encouraged to give salam to even those we don’t know (read my thoughts on this topic here)! And SubhanAllah, I actually don’t get offended too easily – I purposefully try to […]

By: UmmTaha

UmmTaha — Sat, 10 Aug 2013 14:03:47 +0000

Salams to all. Jazaki Allahu khayran for this lovely reminder, Sr. Fyora Luul. In response to the commenters’ questions, I found the following article which insha’ Allah will be helpful: http://www.virtualmosque.com/islam-studies/rules-of-greeting-non-muslims-in-islam-saying-salaamreplying-salaam-bynurideen-lemu-an-nigeri/
Also, I was taught that it is ALWAYS required to return salams, although one does not have to say it out loud if there is a REAL chance of fitna. Wa Allahu aalam

By: Kirana

Kirana — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 02:23:15 +0000

In reply to Mike.

i think so too. oftentimes between locals in Malaysia, young-ish guys give salam to girls but in this insinuative tone, clearly flirting. i suppose, they capitalise on the fact that the muslimah *has* to return the salam. in fact, sometimes when she ignores them and walks past, they even call out “it’s a sin not to reply”. over time, the young woman develops like a pavlovian response to salaams from young-looking men, the first thing in her mind is ‘oh great. another dirtbag stranger trying to flirt with me’. when you get married and grow older, it subsides, mainly because you don’t get such botheration anymore, and a married woman/mother with some age feels more socially confident – she has more social power than a young, single girl.

so, it could be the automatic response she has. it’s a shame, i agree. but i see it as a sign of the wisdom of Allah that he put more onus and responsibility on men, now that we can see the effects when that responsibility is so frequently shirked or corrupted. it is not because men are more worthy or special. it is because when the quality of men is high, then the entire society will be harmonious, women and children are safe and may participate in social relationships without fear. when the quality of men is low, no matter how good the women are, they will not have the same security and it becomes harder for them to retain good qualities as well. women are like the backup plan for humanity, the last shield for the family and the children. men are like the outer shield. the inner shield can withstand a lot of strain, but it is better that it does not have to and is saved for emergencies, like wartime or famine.

By: M

Tue, 18 Sep 2012 23:32:35 +0000

In reply to anonymous brother.

I have learned that it is an obligation to respond to the salam, regardless of if it’s coming from a male or female, unless there is a REAL [not made up, awkward thoughts of how it *might* be perceived] chance of fitna. [READ: NOT MADE-UP, FREAKING OUT MOMENTS OF ‘HE/SHE’LL THINK I’M FLIRTING WITH THEM IF I SAY SALAM].

Say salam, return salam, spread salam, but do it politely and respectfully.

wa Allahu `alam

By: ubah

ubah — Sun, 16 Sep 2012 20:42:37 +0000

In reply to Mike. I'm a sister, so no flirting. ~ ubah

By: RKhan

RKhan — Sun, 16 Sep 2012 07:25:42 +0000

JazakAllah for this good post.
But, like the anonymous brother, I too would really like to know,is it necessary to returm the salam of a muslim brother?
Awaiting for an answer from any knowledgeable person from your site….

By: ubah

ubah — Sun, 16 Sep 2012 02:55:50 +0000

In reply to Yasmin.

Baraak Allahu feeki!

For more of my writing, please check out my site: http://www.seekingtobetter.blogspot.com – and Jazakum Allahu khairan to the SuhaibWebb team for publishing my piece 🙂

~ ubah

By: Mike

Mike — Sun, 16 Sep 2012 00:55:37 +0000

I know why she gave you a dirty look. She thought you were flirting or something. I never give women salam. They never respond one; it causes them to be afraid; two and three; we can’t always tell who is Muslim or who is simply wearing scarf? I was say salam to the men but sometimes just unsure…

By: anonymous brother

anonymous brother — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 21:21:18 +0000

Beautiful post for sure. Jazakum Allahu Khayra for the reminder.

I do, however, think it necessary to bring up something that I have been instructed over, and that is that a Muslim women is not obligated to respond to the salaam of a Muslim man.

I have never really given much thought about this point, nor searched for a scholarly reasoning regarding this topic.

Would it be possible to have Sheikh Suhaib Webb, or someone knowledgeable comment on this view?