Comments on: The Missing Ingredients: Compassion and Gentleness

By: Aila

Aila — Tue, 17 Mar 2015 17:03:29 +0000

I feel when such a thing happens it needs to be addressed in a calm manner. Ignoring such behavior is sometimes the same as encouraging it.

Inshallah Allah us begin to encourage kindness & being mindful of our mouths! The mosque is not where we go to let off steam from the many things that stress all of us. When it stops being accepted then change can really be made/

By: Sharifat

Sharifat — Tue, 29 Oct 2013 09:40:03 +0000

A salamu aleikum wa rahmatullah.

It is always importent to speak in a nice way to eachother. But I do not agree with everything also.

One example:

If I am going to pray, there are many rules as to how I have to do this so that my prayer will be accepted.

So if I have decided to go to masjid for Jumu’a prayer is it not a good idea to first learn the rules for behaviour in masjid.

We are not allowed to speak during the khutbah,we are not allowed to stop others from speaking during the khutbah, we are not allowed to stand up and offer our seat to others, you sit where you sit. In fiqh and sunnah there are some much on this subject. And in respect of the others and the Imam who is talking one should not come there to sit and talk and giggle. Then I ask, why where you coming then? What was your intention when you only come to disturb others?

I am not angry but sometimes we excuse others to much som that in the end there is no ahlaq left.

By: Joseph Funk

Joseph Funk — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:19:34 +0000

This is truly amazing. People are either wired this way or they are not ,, I say this because I was a gentle kind child not a wuss grew up with much dysfunction. Had a daughter she too had these traits. She and I had a great sense of humor and love of humanity. On 2/20/06 she was murdered @17 yrs old. Very much like Christian doctrine
I am aware that it can be learned behavior as well
Thank you Joey Britt’s Dad

By: Dar

Dar — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 10:16:55 +0000

asalamualaikum..thank you for the wonderful words..it lighten my head and soften my heart…masyaallah..

By: Ismail

Ismail — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 09:02:17 +0000

BarakAllah feek. Ameen. Great Article. Well written. Great Reminder.

“The Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) never sugar-coated the truth or stopped calling to the way of Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He). Yet, it was his soft, gentle approach that made his message so palatable and soul-satisfying.” Couldn’t have said it better myself.

By: Noor

Noor — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 14:06:31 +0000

I am a Muslim sister who loves to attend the Friday Khutbah as I find the atmosphere so calm and peaceful with thoughts of Allah, but when there are chidren crying or people talking, it breaks the concentration. At my masjid there are posters that remind the jama’ah how to behave and now there are sisters who are appointed to make sure rules are observed. In cases like this after the Khutba the girls should be told but not to humiliate them,as an example of the Prophet’s leniency:
As was Narrated Anas bin Malik:

A bedouin urinated in the mosque and the people ran to (beat) him. Allah’s Apostle said, “Do not interrupt his urination (i.e. let him finish).” Then the Prophet asked for a tumbler of water and poured the water over the place of urine. [Bukhari]

By: ann

ann — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 20:57:59 +0000

Thank you for your words. I am a christian woman and upon reading your words have found myself agreeing with you. No matter where we come from in this life we all have feelings and all experience the same things. We christians also feel a lot like the women you speak of. We are often ashamed of our choices and dont want a mirror put in our faces to reflect those choices. There are people in our churches who judge us and speak badly of us. We just want to please God also and that is a hard task to accomplish. We should all treat one another with respect being careful of others feelings and realizing each has his or her own spiritual journey.

By: svend

svend — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 18:13:34 +0000

A wonderful piece, mA. I think musalla partitions are just as big a problem.

By: Mahmud

Mahmud — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 15:55:50 +0000

Assalamualaikum wa rahmtullahi wa barakatuh

I would just like to say, while I agree with the message it needs to be said-we can’t be extreme.

Christians are like this. Disobey every rule and there is a smile on the face and “God loves you!”.

You’re going through Burger King and “God loves you!”

You’re purchasing porn and “God loves you!”

You enter a bar and “God loves you!”

And we can’t fall into that trap.

There is one extreme in being too harsh.

And another in being too lenient.

It’s good to invite with warmth and compassion. But with that warmth and compassion or a little bit afterwards, people should be commanded to give up the bad habit/wrong deed or to perform the necessary obligatory deed kindly, gently and FIRMLY. Excessive tolerance and excessive intolerance are what those before us did. We need to strike the right ground Allah would have us strike.

Else we’ll have some mosques throwing tea in pregnant girls faces(it happened to Christians so it has to happen to us as well) and others telling the girl “Allah loves you Allah loves you”.

By: Maryam

Maryam — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 00:02:15 +0000

jazaki Allahu khayran Naiyerah! Have been thinking so much about you and then saw this article. Beautifully written mashaAllah, filled with ayaat and ahadith in an engaging and easy way to follow. may Allah bless and reward you <3