“Once I was giving a speech about brotherhood in my younger days when I was an ideologue and I was saying, “Brotherhood is perfect. We love each other. We never fight. We never have any problems…alhamdulillah (all praise is to Allah)!” Then, Dr. Ingrid Mattison spoke after me. She said, “Jazak Allahu Khayr (may Allah grant goodness) for our young brother here who’s full of ideals.”…..

The thing is, I have heard several times about our respected shuyukh and teachers that have changed their stance or their tone on issues, and the way they teached certain matters from their earlier days. My question is how do we know what to take and what to leave aside? If a teacher we trust said something in the past but regrets it now, how are we to know what to follow? I feel it is important to know this because often our attitude, mindset and actions will stem from the lessons of our teachers.

JazakAllahu kheiran.

I can speak for myself as a married individual: It’s NOT. and i believe thats the reality of marriage.

It’s totally real and it will drive you crazy on certain days and other days you’ll be like wow i have the bestest spouse in the world.

I think the perfection of marriage ultimately lies in our submitting and humbling ourselves to Allah and doing our utmost to please Allah and our spouse. Thats the only way to be happy. period.