Thank you for your comments.

I am interested in knowing the many aspects of Westerns laws which are superior to Islamic law. If you can share them here, it will be enlightening.

May I also ask you if you believe that Islam is from God? If yes, why and if no, why?

Thanks!

I remember once in a gathering I was told (and this is in North America), that Muslims shouldn’t wear shirts and pants as its imitates the Kafirs. I was told that Muslim shouldn’t apply for citizenship – its Shirk – because we give allegiance to a un-islamic State.

To me, many aspects of Islam seems outdated or doesn’t make sense. Now, I can just ignore all of these aspects, and just stick to basics – which I was often told. Stick with Salaah (2nd pillar of Islam), and recite Quran regularly, and that’s all you need.

The problem is that if I was living in a much less developed society like Afghanistan (not looking down upon them), but if my life was much simple, then probably blind faith on Islam would be the best thing to me, but to me it seems that many aspects of Western laws are superior to Islamic rules, or at least it appears that way.

I am now a non-practicing Muslim because religion as a whole seems outdated to me and in many cases doesn’t make sense. I have tried many times to not believe in God, but somehow I tend to end up believing that there must be a God.

Maybe 20+ years of Islamic upbringing – and the teachings of Imam Al Ghazali – where he said that a person can never deny the existence of God through his Ru’h though he/she may deny it by lips, but the Ruh leans towards the truth – have been indoctrinated into me that its difficult to think differently. I also performed Hajj when I was about 19.

I would admit that there are many teachings in Islam which can make a positive impact on a human being, but then you would have to pick & choose parts of it, rather than taking it as a whole.

All in all, its not surprising to me to see why many Muslims would want to / or have left Islam.

1. What women get in heaven?
Simple answer. The women will get similar to whatever a man gets. The man gets beautiful maidens and the women will get beautiful men. Let us read the Quranic verse which confirms whatever I said.
 
“And you will have therein whatever your souls desire, and you will havetherein whatever you request [or wish].”   Quran Chapter41: Verse 31
 
The above verse talks about the people of paradise. The point to be noted is: It does NOT specify any gender. The above verse applies to the people of paradise,both male and female. So if a female desires a beautiful man, she will get it. After all, this is what we mean by paradise, a place of enjoyment and pleasure.
 
Now,one may ask: Why Allah mentioned ONLY Hooris (Female maidens) and did NOT talkabout male maidens for females?
This is a very valid question. To know the answer, we need to understand some basics of Arabic language. In Arabic, there are ONLY two genders (NO NEUTRAL GENDER),male and female. In Arabic language, as a generality, when they want to address the mixed group of male and female, it is common that they address with the male gender. ONLY when there is a need to specify something for females or to stress on something that is important for females, they use feminine gender. Every language has its own style and nature and this is the nature of the Arabic language.Even in English we have this: We SAY: Chairman (There is NO CHAIRWOMAN).Similarly both the married man and bachelor is referred as Mr. BUT we have MRS and MISS for the females. This is NOT to discriminate. This is the nature of the language.
 
To give a simple example in day to day usage of Arabic, we will consider “AssalamuAlaikum”. This phrase of greeting is also used by Arab Non-Muslims. Nowif you literally translate “Assalamu Alaikum” it will mean : May peace be on all you males.
If you want to refer to females, then the phrase should read : Assalamu Alaikunna.(May peace be on all you females).
Although gramatically, Assalamu Alaikum ONLY refers to MALES, we see that the phrase isused for BOTH MALES AND FEMALES. Even Arab non-muslims use it this way. The reason is the same given above – the nature of Arabic language where as a generality, both the genders are addressed in the masculine form UNLESS there is a need to stress something or mention something specific to females.
 
In the Quran, if you see most of the times, the commands are referred to in male gender. For example: God talks about the command to pray, fast, give zakah etc. All these commands are given in male gender. If we see chapter 2: Verse 185, it will say, Whoever reaches the month of Ramadhan, LET HIM PRAY. This is again in masculine gender. No Muslim understands that ONLY men should fast. The male usage is because of the nature of the language.
 
Quran DOES use feminine gender when there is something specific for females to be mentioned (See Chapter 24: Verse 31) or to stress on something important (SeeChapter 33:35).
 
With keeping the rules shown above in mind, we can understand that Quran mentioned Hooris alone because as a general rule it addressed the men. The way to understand it is: Women will get beautiful men like the way men get beautiful maidens.
Hope this clarifies the first part insha Allah!