“The best actions are those which are small and consistent”

– The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (peace be upon him) (Bukhari and Muslim)

The idea of memorizing the entire Qur’an is a goal that usually just sits in the back of our heads. We patiently wait to attack it full-force when the perfect time arises, constantly reassuring ourselves with “insha’Allah (God willing)… one day” type of sentiments. We think that someday we’ll be able to drop everything, quit our jobs, go to the top of an unpronounceable mountain in a country we’ve never heard of and immerse ourselves in the Qur’an as our sole focus. We’ll come back from that mountain being enlightened individuals, no longer anything like our old selves.

Insha’Allah… One day.

I converted to Islam during my last semester of high school in early 2008. I was fascinated by Hamza Yusuf’s stories of studying in the remote desert of Mauritania (a country I had actually never heard of before). And before starting college, I was seriously considering taking donations and going to study overseas. I was going to learn Arabic quickly, live a monk-like life full of spiritual awakenings and come back to the west as a truly enlightened individual.

After coming back into reality, I realized this wasn’t going to happen for a whole host of reasons. I was going to go to college just like any normal kid, live with my parents for a few more years and try to figure out these things in the meantime.

Five years later, I wanted to seriously memorize the Qur’an, without doing anything lucrative or expensive (I didn’t have any money).

At the beginning of 2013, I began to look at methods to memorize Qur’an more efficiently. I looked at all the ayat (verses) I had memorized up to that point and divided the number by the amount of days since I converted (somewhere around 170 ayat and 1,800 days). I discovered that, on average, I had memorized about one ayah every ten days. This was due to very sporadic memorization habits and not keeping up with a daily practice of reading, reflecting and memorizing Qur’an. I knew I could do much more and decided to reevaluate my approach.

I wanted the process of memorizing Qur’an to be more habitual and regular in my life. I discovered, and promptly downloaded a free iPhone application called Lift, which lets you “check-in” to daily habits of your choice. I created the “Memorize one ayah” habit and started logging it each day with the ayah number and when I completed each surah (chapter).

I figured the worst that could happen was I would increase my rate of memorizing Qur’an tenfold.

Shortly after creating the “Memorize one ayah” habit, I started tracking other forms of devotion such as the 12 rakats (units of prayer) of sunnah prayers each day and a few other habits. My home screen on Lift had the following habits:

• 2 rakat sunnah before Fajr
• 4 rakat sunnah before Dhuhr
• 2 rakat sunnah after Dhuhr
• 2 rakat sunnah after Maghrib
• 2 rakat sunnah after Isha
• Salat-ul-Witr
• Make du’a
• Memorize one ayah
• Review Qur’an

This kind of self-tracking is linked to the “Quantified Self” movement, another one of my self-improvement obsessions. People all over the world are using technology to track the number of steps they take each day, their heart rate, what foods their eating and what habits they want to build. Modern technology is allowing people to track these things easily to make changes in their life, and even has immense implications to modern healthcare discoveries with thousands of people uploading their data to the cloud. I decided to take advantage of this approach for purposes of ibadah (worship).

I discovered a lot about my own practices after several months tracking this data. For example: many of the sunnah prayers became automatic after a few months, I became more motivated to pick up the mushaf (written version of the Qur’an) on a daily basis, and was reminded to make du`a’ (supplication) each time I opened up Lift.

Other unexpected results also came after tracking. I started listening to more Qur’an recordings to help my review process, and actually increased my reading speed and reduced my mistakes while reciting off the page.

(Note: Being a convert, I’ve never had a consistent Qur’an teacher. I’m about 95% self-taught when it comes to reading Arabic and reciting.)

To put this in perspective, you would complete the entire Qur’an if you memorized one ayah each day for 17 years. Two ayat each day? Only 8 years. And so on. This was my main motivation. I’m sure that many of those reading this article are hoping to live another 17 years, and memorizing one ayah takes only a few minutes. It’s very accessible and worth the effort.

One of Lift’s top habits is “Floss.” The creator of Lift, Tony Stubblebine, has actually been told that his users are the poster children for the flossing industry. You want to know the trick for starting a flossing habit?

Floss just one tooth.

Getting started is the hardest thing. Stopping whatever you’re doing and flossing that one tooth is the hardest part of the process. Flossing the rest becomes easy. Over time, you get better at it. You begin to almost look forward to it.

This is why the “Memorize one ayah” habit was more than what it seemed. I often memorized more, the hardest part was picking up the mushaf and starting. It was still hard, and I often put it off until the last thing before sleeping. But after that one ayah, I didn’t have to keep going. I had met my quota for the day.

I was most strict regarding the memorizing habit, salat ul-witr, and the 2 sunnah rakats after isha prayer. Here are my 10 months of results with the different habits. The graphs show how many check-ins to each habit I had each month. I marked the top with life events to see correlations to what other things were going on in my life. This has been a busy year!

Qur’an Habits

Evening Sunnah Prayers and Salat ul-Witr

Daytime Sunnah Prayers

You’ll notice that I stopped tracking the evening sunnah prayers after September. This is because they became automatic. I now treat the “memorize one ayah” hand-in-hand with the “Review Qur’an habit,” which I also removed for the sake of minimalism.

The daytime sunnah prayers were much more sporadic than the evening ones. This was probably due to my chaotic schedule during my last semester of university. You can see them slowly become more frequent after May, peaking around Ramadan, and then dropping again as I got a new job and adjusted to a new schedule.

I also decided to add the 4 nafl before ‘Asr habit. I am not as strict about it, but it’s still a good reminder when I see it every day. Building the sunnah prayers as habits is currently a higher priority.

Regarding memorization, I had increased my memorization more than tenfold due to often memorizing 2-3 ayat each day. The worst thing that happened was I would batch several days together and only pick up the mushaf every three days or so. Don’t do this. It will mess your rhythm up badly.

I’m closing in on finishing juz `amma (the 30^th section of the Qur’an), which has a lot of shorter ayat. This is something that would have taken me years without starting a daily practice.

Here are some tips on building habits using a tool like Lift:

1. Keep your habits simple. Don’t confuse yourself with 30 new habits that will change your life. A simpler habit schedule is easiest to keep up with.
2. Check-in immediately after completing the habit. This gives you an immediate sense of reward and keeps you motivated.
3. If checking into the “Memorize one ayah” habit, write down the ayah numbers in the app. This will help you keep track of where you left off, and it’s fun to look back.
4. Don’t get upset if you miss a day. Start where you left off and renew your intention.

So where do you start? Begin by getting the Lift iPhone app or use their web interface (it’s free). There are probably some other people already participating in the daily habits you want to start. You can even follow me.

Realizing that you don’t need to put off worshipping Allah, keeping your goals in the back of your head, is very liberating. Remember to start something new like this with good intentions and lots of du`a’. You might surprise yourself with the milestones you achieve.

Insha’Allah… Today!

About the author: Alex Arrick is a Muslim convert living in Texas. He has written several articles for VirtualMosque.com including 12 tips for the convert Muslim and 8 things you should understand about converts. You can reach him at alex.arrick@yahoo.com.

By Alex Arrick 

1. A lot of things are running through our heads right now.

“And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient”  (Qur’an, 2:155).

New converts to Islam have just made the biggest decision of their lives, and changed their religion to one that they are unfamiliar with in many ways. There are a lot of stimuli around us that we are not used to, being in the mosque, hanging out with Muslims, hearing foreign languages other than Spanish, etc. Often, new Muslims might look uncomfortable because they are not used to their surroundings. A big change has just occurred in the convert’s life, and each person will respond differently to these situations.

While we are learning the basics of Islam, either before or after our shahada (testimony of faith), we are constantly coming across new things that we’ve never heard of before. It takes a long time to be able to have a consistent foundation that’s strong enough to feel any amount of comfort in the religion. This process is similar to moving to a foreign country, not knowing the language, customs, or environment that surrounds us. We often have no idea about the origin of certain customs and whether they are from Islam or a person’s culture, and it takes time to be able to discern between the two.

2. Our family life is uncertain.

A man asked the Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him): ‘What is the right of parents on their offspring?’ The Prophet ﷺ replied: “They are your Paradise and your Hell.” (Sunan Ibn Majah)

People who are born into Islam have the benefit of having a foundation with their parents and family. The Qur’an is on their bookshelf, Arabic words are mixed into conversation without needing definition, and there is an environment of tradition that provides a reference point for looking at the world. A convert is experiencing the total opposite. He or she doesn’t have any sort of religious connection with their family anymore, and there is sometimes backlash from parents and extended family about the decision to become a Muslim.

Even if there’s no significant backlash, there are no blood relatives to talk to about Islam, no one to clarify things, and no family support to be offered in the entire process. All of these things can cause an immense amount of stress and disillusionment. It’s common for converts to have moments of breakdown where they feel like nobody is on their side. For those who are lucky enough to have a close friend or mentor to help them in situations like this, it’s still not the same as having family help. Converts need an exceptionally good amount of emotional support from individuals in their community to feel empowered as Muslims. This doesn’t require a full-time therapist, but just people to make them feel at home.

3. Our friends are leaving us.

“A man follows the religion of his close friend, so each of you should be very careful about whom he takes as a close friend.” —The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi)

Friends are known for being brutally honest. When a convert tells his friends that he or she just became Muslim, they are going to receive a wide range of reactions. Even if their friends are supportive, they will still be really puzzled and they will ask a million questions that most born Muslims would have trouble answering. And while most converts don’t get a Ph.D. in Islamic Studies before becoming Muslim, they’re going to sometimes feel pushed into a corner when tested by their friends.

Their friends might stick around for a while, but chances are their habits are not always what a new Muslim wants to be around. After you deny a few invitations to go to parties, they might stop calling all together. Friends who seem to have abandoned you can cause a lot of depression and loneliness, and it will always take a while to replace a decent group of friends with a good group of Muslim friends.

4. We don’t know how to spend our free time.

“Whenever a Muslim is afflicted with a hardship, sickness, sadness, worry, harm, or depression –even a thorn’s prick, Allah expiates his sins because of it.”  —The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Bukhari, Muslim)

After the distance is created with friends and family, it’s hard to fill free time or stay busy enough to not start feeling down sometimes. Converts will notice a gap in their schedules that was previously filled with something else like hanging out with friends, going to concerts, or partying. This is especially hard to cope with in a smaller city where there isn’t much else to do and not enough Muslims to spend time with.

In this situation, there might be a desire to go back to old habits to feel “normal” again, or there will be an urge to stay alone and away from other people. While Islam doesn’t allow monasticism or hedonism, this causes a problem for converts to Islam when it’s a minority religion in the society. Eventually the situation will get easier and there won’t be any problem in staying busy, but initially it can be very hard to stay positive.

5. We don’t know what to learn and who to learn from.

“Make things easier, do not make things more difficult, spread the glad tidings, do not hate.” —The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Bukhari)

Converts usually experience some trouble in the beginning with differences in fiqh (jurisprudence). Their background is usually from a religion with a narrower view of right or wrong. Often converts will think: “So do I raise my hands after bowing or not? Which one is right and which one is wrong?” The fact is there are many correct opinions regarding such issues in Islam. Converts will often find themselves in the dilemma of whether to take the easier opinion or the stronger one.

At the very best, this will cause only a small amount of confusion at first. Remember that converts don’t have a family to help form their opinions about these things, and they are getting information from all sides. A common decision converts will make is choosing between zabiha (ritually slaughtered) and non-zabiha meat. In reality it’s a fact that there is a difference of opinion among scholars regarding the meat of Ahl-al-Kitab (People of the Book, i.e. Jews and Christians), but converts can feel pressured to take one opinion over the other based on someone’s limited knowledge of the issue.

6. We don’t know when we’ll make another mistake.

“And whoever is patient and forgives – indeed that is of the matters [requiring] determination.” —The Holy Qur’an 42:43

Because they feel like they’re in a foreign country while in the mosque, a convert won’t know when someone will point out something they’re doing wrong. Often people come up to converts with a self-righteous attitude and give them harsh advice based on their own limited understanding. The convert is already dealing with differing opinions coming from every angle, and it’s very discouraging to have someone correct you in a harsh way.
The ideal way to correct a convert is the way of the Rasulullah ﷺ, with kindness and understanding. Remember all the sahaba (companions of the Prophet ﷺ) were converts and were constantly receiving guidance directly from the Messenger ﷺ. The sahaba didn’t feel chastised or discouraged when they were corrected, but uplifted. This is something that needs to be taken into deep consideration when advising a convert, who may be more sensitive to these things than a born-Muslim (who often needs just as much advice).

7. We don’t know what you actually think of us.

“Not one of you can believe if you do not want for your brother what you want for yourself.” —The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Bukhari)

A lot of converts will get a lot of praise and helpful words from fellow Muslims, but there is sometimes an animosity towards converts that should be something alien to our ummah (Muslim community)—it resembles a pre-Islamic attitude of racism. As a convert, there is often a feeling of inferiority because “I’m not Arab” or “I’m not desi” that can sometimes lead the convert to acting like they are from a culture they are not, and that has nothing to do with Islam. This is something that needs to be resisted by converts who might have the urge to wear Pakistani clothes to “fit-in” around Muslims because they feel so different.

Let converts retain their culture in ways that don’t contradict Islam. They need to feel empowered and uplifted as Muslims and not reduced to the lowest common denominator. Converts have a lot they can bring to the table, and to take that ability away from them is a crime. Salman al-Farsi, a Persian companion of the Prophet ﷺ, was the one to recommend the battle strategy in the Battle of the Trench against the Quraysh. Salman’s Arab brothers in Islam took his opinion and used it to win the battle. If Salman had had an inferiority complex because of his Persian heritage, he might not have offered his opinion. Remember to make your convert brothers and sisters feel like they are a valued part of our community that links us to the culture around us.

8. We might be second-guessing our decision.

“If someone does not show mercy to people, Allah will not show mercy to him.” —The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Bukhari, Muslim)

In the worst-case scenario, converts might feel so discouraged that they second-guess their decision to convert.  With all the different problems that arise after conversion, there is a sense of desperation that can lead to apostasy. While some of it is unavoidable, there is much that our communities can do to help our converts feel welcomed and strong as Muslims. Most of it requires simple attitude changes like getting rid of the “back-home” mentality and having outrageous ideals that don’t reflect reality.

Research by Dr. Ilyas Ba-Yunus notes that 75% of American converts leave the religion after a few years. This is a tragedy that reflects the inability of American-Muslim communities to take care of their converts. With these statistics we should be asking ourselves: what can we do as individuals and as communities to help our convert brothers and sisters find comfort in Islam? This is a compassionate call to action for the born-Muslims to do what they can to understand, assist, and advise those who enter into Islam. Instead of alienation, we need to embrace with open arms.