Comments on: A Marriage Mystery

By: Sara

Sara — Sat, 30 Aug 2014 12:00:06 +0000

Hopeless – you don’t know they met their husbands as ‘friends’, you don’t know if they’re handsome, and you don’t know that their marriages are perfect. Indeed, none of these things matter anyway. I have yet to see a perfect marriage… and it is piety, not looks we are supposed to marry for, as mentioned in hadiths of the Prophet (peace be upon him). And it certainly isn’t about luck for many. It is about heartfelt duas and trust in Allah. Your name ‘hopeless’ indicates where the problem lies. We put our trust in Allah. I.e. be hopeful, not hopeless!

By: Faizan SA

Faizan SA — Wed, 16 Jul 2014 07:58:43 +0000

In reply to hopeless. Dont be so hopeless sister.Can i know more about you??

By: hopeless

hopeless — Tue, 01 Jul 2014 17:26:11 +0000

all these muslima bloggers have the perfect marriages with their handsome husband whom they met as “friends” first. sigh…i wish i could be as lucky as them. 🙁

By: Rita

Rita — Sat, 15 Feb 2014 06:00:32 +0000

In reply to m. Sister, you are quoting Austen in this article! The first thing u need to do is make sure a suitor actually knows who Austen is and could actually understand her work! That is my advice to you--do not marry anyone that doesn't have plenty in common with u and marry someone that complements you intellectually!

By: pinkypower

pinkypower — Tue, 10 Dec 2013 06:37:27 +0000

In reply to pinkypower. *sorry meant learned brothers are hard to find, they are far and few

By: mila

mila — Mon, 09 Dec 2013 09:29:48 +0000

In reply to pinkypower. lol! why is this happening.. i agreed with the term "learned brothers are hard are far and few"

By: m

Sat, 28 Sep 2013 16:03:21 +0000

You are young and that’s why you feel the way you feel. I have felt that way when I was young and I passed on marriage; while I was seeking my way in the world. I thought wait let me get more established first. What happened, time went by; I got older and got laid off and been up unable to get a job for almost 4 years now. Was on bed-rest for two of those from some medical complications. If I had been married i would have a partner; somebody to love and take care of me when I was all alone. Now I am older and I regret not marrying when I was younger. Now I considered uncle and not marry-able except to divorcee or something. And I’m not even 40 yet, get married in your twenties; I tell everyone. It much better. Voice of experience. But nobody listens; if they did there would be no more mistakes. Also; Muslim girls and their families have to start doing a better job getting their girls married. Don’t wait on the guys; propose their families and them. Have to be more proactive. Some muslim cultures are more proactive in marriage than others, such as Lebanese, some Punjabis, some Egyptians but its limited.

By: Hannah Qasryna

Hannah Qasryna — Sat, 28 Sep 2013 05:53:56 +0000

This article is an eye-opener. Young people these days have no patience. They start thinking about marriage even before graduating high schools. I am not saying it is a bad thought, but personally, I feel that we should thrive to improve on our own weaknesses and serve our parents before we embark on this stage of life-which, from my observations, shift our focus. Many of us forget to give back to our parents who have raised us from day one of our lives. I always tell myself that what’s meant to be will find its way, and if it is meant to happen, InsyaAllah sooner or later it will happen.’ You don’t have to rush into it, as the saying goes, ‘Marry in haste and repent in leisure’. Take some time for self-improvement, and everything else will fall into place. I believe in Allah’s decree with all my heart and soul. May Allah bless us all with a righteous partner who will guide us to Jannah. Amin Ya Rabb.

By: Manal

Manal — Sun, 30 Jun 2013 05:16:19 +0000

Salaam Meltem,

SubhanAllah sister, what you came to conclude with really brought a feeling of peace and comfort to my heart. You really just reminded me of the simplicity of Islam and not just that but also that Allah SWT blessed us with marriage as a gift to all of us, and not as something to bring us farther from Him but rather to bring us closer to Him. Jazak Allah Khair 🙂

By: RY

RY — Sat, 29 Jun 2013 22:55:49 +0000

In reply to Sakina. :) InShaAllah.