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“Whoever doesn’t appreciate people, doesn’t appreciate Allah.”

Genuinely, people are foolish! Do they think their actions and words will be forgotten? Forgiven?! Only by with will of Allah will He forgive, but insaan is not so forgiving. Be careful of the way you treat His men! For it will come back to bite you. Only when death touches a person does he realise how short life is and the value of doing good. Be wise and have the courage to be a better person for the sake of Allah swt.

Wa Iyyaakum! Alhamdulillah I’m happy that people have found some benefit in this humble work, May Allah accept from us!

Thank you for your comments sister! May Allah give us understanding and guidance!

As a small follow-up, never forget the hadith Qudsi where Allah has told us: “I am as my servant thinks I am…” When we ask Allah for his Mercy and guidance we must have firm faith and conviction that He not only WILL guide us, but that He WANTS to guide us… LOVES to guide us!

As Aisha (RA) asked the Prophet (SAWS), if she knew it was the Night of Power what should she say or ask from Allah. The Prophet (SAWS) said: “O Allah, indeed you are forgiving and you LOVE forgiveness, so forgive me!”

Jazaakallahu Khaira brother for your comments! I agree 100%! The more time we spend in the garden the better the harvest! Unfortunately we live in a very fast paced world. Most of us are not investing the time it takes to build (and maintain)strong relationships, even amongst our immediate families. May God help us to be better brothers and sisters to one another!

Jazaakillahu khaira! Alhamdulillah I have great editors helping me, May Allah reward them all!

Ameen brother Said!

From my experience, advice is not received mainly due to the following:
1. wrong timing – “I’m not ready to listen” or, “Where were you yesterday when this would have been useful, instead of now, when it’s no longer helpful?”
2. “I don’t believe you understand my situation”
and finally, which fundamentally is what the above two are really about as well:

3. “I don’t believe that you care about me.”

I observe this both in others, as well as in myself – on reflection, invariably I seek and take advice most readily from those individuals who I *believe* care about me. And it is a shorter list, and quite different from, those who *claim* they care about me. Even Allah – the moment when I began to regularly ask Him for advice and actually listen for His answers, is when I began to *believe* He cares about me personally – thanks in large part to knowledge about Him conveyed to me by people such as those on this website.

I think this is because, if I don’t think you’re doing this for me, then you must be doing it for you. And that makes you just another problem for me to deal with on top of all the other ones. This is why people avoid people who constantly “advise” others – to avoid multiplying the problems they already have. I observe the best advisors don’t seek to advise or talk much at all, particularly in the beginning – they just be around, or listen, or just help out.

There are many ways to show someone you care about them – but nothing beats spending enough time, and consistently being there.

May God make it a means by which the author earns more of His Mercy, a means by which we are guided closer towards understanding and applying His commandments and a means by which become united as a community. Ameen.

An important point, which you may touch on in your future article (apologies if you are!), is that very rarely do I find brothers and sisters giving sincere advice! That is advice that they would give to their own flesh and blood. Advice that they have found to work for themselves. Advice that themselves would want to receive – not just with respect to tone – but also with respect to detail and specificity.

All too often eg I’ve come across (and sadly this is the majority, at least from what I’ve experienced) when it comes to giving revision advice, brothers and sisters will just tell their siblings in faith the absolute bare bones or give some meaningless statement like “they’ll be fine/work hard”. There are few individuals who would sit down with someone else for 45 mins, give them tips and tricks and pretty much tell them exactly what they need to know (or at least find it out for them/point them to someone who does). This is important component in giving sincere advice that is not often discussed.

The same can be given for khutbahs / speeches that are given with little preparation / research / thought utilised to give advice that would truly benefit their recipient – not just something that will entertain them / get the job done somehow.