Comments on: Gender Relations in the Prophet’s Society

By: Opposite gender interaction of the companions of Prophets – Eat Read Write

Opposite gender interaction of the companions of Prophets – Eat Read Write — Thu, 08 Jul 2021 07:39:33 +0000

[…] Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas (ra): “Al-Fadl bin Abbas rode behind God’s Messenger ﷺ as his companion rider on the back portion of his she-camel on the day of Nahr (slaughtering of sacrifice, 10th Dhul-Hijja) and Al-Fadl was a handsome man. The Prophet ﷺ stopped to give the people verdicts (regarding their matters). In the meantime, a beautiful woman from the tribe of Khatham came, asking the verdict of God’s Messenger. Al-Fadl started looking at her as her beauty attracted him. The Prophet ﷺ looked behind while Al-Fadl was looking at her; so the Prophet ﷺ held out his hand backwards and caught the chin of Al-Fadl and turned his face (to the other side) in order that he should not gaze at her….”3 […]

By: Rishat Batyrov

Rishat Batyrov — Mon, 18 Apr 2016 07:16:29 +0000

As salam wa aleikum sister.
I have great desire and interest in establishing a masjid where men and women prey in the same area as we once did during the times of Prophet Mohammad sal Allahu aleihi wa salam. I have a plan to reach this goal. Part of the plan is to acquire the funds and location needed to construct such a facility. The other part is to educate muslims and non muslims on prophetic teachings of gender interactions. The later has not been properly thought out yet. What would be the first step to start such an education process throughout the muslim communities in the states? Currently, do we have access to english translated books on this topic to disseminate to the masses in a cost effective manner? One of the problems I have noticed, is that people refuse to even consider such knowledge or accept the notion of muslim sexes coexisting, partially due to cultural training. How difficult of a task would it be to incorporate such knowledge into our public school system curriculum? Is it even possible in the states? My goal is provide such knowledge to a specific set of an audience, mainly the men and women below the age 40-30 and younger generations currently and in the future, since the younger population is more susceptible to change and correction of their ways, as compared to the older generation which has mostly accepted and rooted their values and beliefs as unchangeable, of course this does not apply to all. One way I intend to tackle this issue in the future is through the use of video production of islamic knowledge in the form of dialogue between mature agents and animated series of events geared towards children and adolescents. Such a simple concept is of course an enormous project which will take many years if not decades to gain traction, but I truly want to tackle such a heavy issue which is largely being overlooked by the imams and parents and youth. If you can share any wisdom on preparing for such a task, I would greatly appreciate it. I’m currently being trained in the field of Journalism and Media Communication, minor Psychology, and intend to apply this training to address our issues to find solutions and enact positive changes. I’m also part of the real estate market remodeling/renting/flipping houses. I intend to use this experience to acquire the needs for necessary facilities in the future. Again, any advice or direction to others who might shed further light on the matter would be greatly appreciated.
Jazzak Allah khair.
As salam wa aliekum wa rahma Allah wa barakatu.

By: C

Sat, 27 Feb 2016 13:10:17 +0000

In reply to Gibran Mahmud. This is not only for you but in reply to everyone who's saying that "the woman back then didn't dress like woman do nowadays. They wear tighter clothes etc". Well some women back then used to go around topless. That's a fact. There were pagan women walking around topless and they even used to go around ka'ba in that state (this was forbidden the year before our Prophet did Hajj). The awra of slave girls is the same as men so there were slave girls who were topless. So you are wrong in saying that men face greater temptation nowadays.

By: Sarita

Sarita — Thu, 06 Feb 2014 00:58:44 +0000

In reply to M S Sheikh. Men are supposed to lower their gaze and control themselves since they are different than animals. You are not entitled to tell people how to practice their religion unless you are a scholar and even then you can guide but not condemn and blame. This is unfortunately what happens often: crimes are committed in the name of religion. Algeria had a civil war that spanned more than a decade because extremists were preaching hate at mosques.

By: Fritz

Fritz — Sat, 01 Feb 2014 22:49:55 +0000

In reply to Sarita.

Sarita,

Statistics assume that reporting is 100% accurate, consistent and representative of the overall sample. This is clearly not always the case. Lets not even go into the level of false reporting and the victim mentality that can be adopted by some.

“abuse is committed against women” hmm…..so would you say that its a one way street?

I dont doubt that when it comes to physical abuse that women are affected more. HOWEVER, emotional abuse can be just as damaging (and sometimes even more damaging) than violence. Most males are expected to just ignore this under the guise of “be a man, just put up with it” , “love but dont try to understand women” etc.

By: M S Sheikh

M S Sheikh — Sat, 01 Feb 2014 12:41:31 +0000

In reply to Sarita. You are supposed to cover up, you are supposed to not to steal. If you can't condemn/criticise the one who does not observe the former then what is the justification for considering the latter wrong/condemnable?

By: Z

Sat, 01 Feb 2014 10:52:26 +0000

In reply to Ahmed Saleem.

“Is the desire to look beautiful a great trial? How about wanting to show off? Being overly friendly with guys? Gossiping, spreading rumors? Attracting men (unintentionally or intentionally) with the way they walk, laugh, talk and behave? Is all of this a trial to a woman? I highly doubt it. I think this just comes naturally to women, and it’s part of the way they are created by Allah in His Wisdom.”

SubhanAllah you are generalizing all women to be this way and going as far to say it comes naturally?!? Then what about men who flirt with women, sweet talk them, influence them in having relationship and then discarding them like used tissues? Are all men like this? By your logic even these come naturally to men, don’t they? And then is it again the woman’s fault that these men created so much fitna!
Today even once chaste and hijabi women fall for such men and are trapped when these kind of men have physical relationships and leave them, moving on with thier lives and what are them women left with? they are no longer virgins and are not accepted by the above kind of stubborn muslim men who want “pure” wives in their impure lives.
Widen your perspective brother, every is facing their own tests here. You are not alone being tested

By: Sarita

Sarita — Sat, 01 Feb 2014 06:06:43 +0000

In reply to Aijaz.

@ Aijaz
I pitty your daughter and/or sister then.
I assumed if you had a son he would be unable to control himself either.
How will he function in a society where women are not dressed modestly? Will he be able to work and interact with women at work?
Or will he have a double-standard: one around non-muslims and one for when he is around Muslims?

By: Sarita

Sarita — Sat, 01 Feb 2014 06:01:11 +0000

In reply to Fritz. Fritz, The statistics prove otherwise: abuse is committed against women, and women suffer far more from domestic abuse and violence than men do.

By: Sarita

Sarita — Sat, 01 Feb 2014 05:58:35 +0000

In reply to Maria.

Well said!
The comment below by M S Sheikh is an example of those.
We are not to judge or blame others. Only Allah can, and he is often quoted as being merciful.
To those who criticize, blame women, and misinterpret this article, what have you done to contribute to your Muslim community?
Maryam AMIREBRAHIMI has done a great job.
This article has certainly impacted many. I know of many women friends who think that way even though we have adult children, so this isn’t just about the young generation.
Parents have a big role to play in raising their male children to respect women and not give free reign to their sons and restrict their daughters.