Comments on: Ramadan Reflection: Seek Support

By: Fatima

Fatima — Sat, 27 Apr 2013 22:59:39 +0000

In reply to Nida. Asalamu calaykum sister, I'm well alhamdulilah. And even though I haven't spoken to anyone about this I've goten a lot better alhamdulilah :) It wasn't easy but i focused on getting closer to ALLAH swt and make a lot of duaa and thikir. A lot of ups and downs, even a a depression but Alhamdulilah, Allah swt got to throu it!

By: Nida

Nida — Sat, 27 Apr 2013 16:46:26 +0000

In reply to Fatima. Yes sister! You should definitely consider talking to someone, a professional, especially since you say your mental health hasn't been well lately. It's been a year since you posted, I hope that you have reached out to somebody during this time inshallah.

By: Nida

Nida — Sat, 27 Apr 2013 16:41:40 +0000

In reply to R. I like the suggestion of a list or database of some sort of Muslims professionals in the country. Does anyone kow if something like this exists?

By: Kirana

Kirana — Sun, 03 Mar 2013 01:42:42 +0000

It’s true. Even when you find people with good intentions, they give you advice according to what works for them/ordinary circumstances, and cannot comprehend what it’s like when the situation is difficult and unusual, particularly when the disorder is related to something psychological or neurological, let alone when interlinked with its effects on marital and theological issues, within an intercultural settings. We’re kind of on our own. Muslim communities tend to lack people with the imagination to comprehend what novel situations might be like for the purpose of understanding and helping another human, without a pathological need to pre-decide if it’s haraam or not. People tend to cope better when the handicap is physical with everything else absolutely normal.

By: AK

AK — Sat, 01 Sep 2012 18:31:34 +0000

For those of you who have experienced the trauma of sexual abuse, it is important to get help. Find a counselor. The easiest way to do so: http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/?gclid=CJ6xueiBlbICFYY-MgodSVEAbQ

Also, you may find the following resource helpful: http://www.virtualmosque.com/society/domestic-violence/child-abuse/

By: Fatima

Fatima — Mon, 20 Aug 2012 23:28:24 +0000

Asalamo caleikom wr wb!

When I moved to Norway at the age of six, my father used to drink alcohol and soon after we ( my mother and siblings) arrived he started molesting me. He would donsome thing to me almost evary day untill I was eleven and got my periode. I have never spoken of it to anybody. Today my father is a beter man, but i still hate him for what he did to me, and i am realising that I can’t show my mother that i love here. I don’t know if i even do! She would often leave
me and my brother home alone with him in the vications, once he almost broke my arm. And he jused to touch me right infront of here how could she not have seen that?
I have always protected my siblings and he has never done any thing like that to them allhamdulilah!

Today I am 18 years old, discusted by the sight of this man! Constantly fighting withy mother, addicted to bad sexsual- habits (not zina). I am practesing my religion allhamdulilah, but lately my mental healt has not been good and i am strugling with everything.

This is the first time I have been able to put some of what hapend to me into words, it feels good! So help me what should I do, talk to a Psychologist ? Make duaa for me inshAllah!

By: Abdul-rahmon

Abdul-rahmon — Fri, 17 Aug 2012 23:31:27 +0000

In reply to Fulan Fulani. Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatu. Please check out purify your gaze, it helped people with compulsive disorders from an Islamic perspective. Your not addicted to pornography its a means of escaping reality.

By: Yasmin

Yasmin — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 00:10:18 +0000

Assalam o alaikum,
I don’t understand why people do such a thing. I personally have been through sexual abused by my older brother and sister. My sister used to make me do things that I didn’t want to all the time. I don’t remember what age it started, but I do remember her doing things to me at age 9. My older brother started to touch me while I slept. I woke many times and swore at him, but I never spoke to him about it. The thing that gets me is, at that time he was the most religious. praying salah, reading Quran, respecting parents and siblings. My uncle even tried to kiss me once. I’ve never told anyone about these things, I kind of tried to forget them.

By: Amjad

Amjad — Sat, 11 Aug 2012 04:53:19 +0000

I know it’s not right category to put the question.

But what is the wisdom behind Beard in Islam ?

I know it’s Sunnah the very first and only motive for me but I was wondering if someone can explain like comprehensive explanation on this topic.

Jazakhumullah Khair.

Regards,
Amjad

By: AmatullahA

AmatullahA — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 19:47:28 +0000

In reply to Mariam. Assalam Alaykum dear sister, Its heart breaking to have read your story. My prayers go out to your family, your sister and brother. Please try to get in contact with Muslim counselors mentioned by the bros and sis here that can aid you in the best possible way inshaa'Allah. May Allah make it easy upon your family and may you all come out of this trial stronger than ever Ameen. I also request the Staff here to direct the sister to some professionals as they may have a better idea.