FAQs & Fatwas Islamic Studies

"Slipped with a Guy, Turned back to Allah and I'm Worried"

The Question:

In that past, I made some terrible mistakes with a guy I knew. Nothing too out of line, but mistakes. After some time we both woke up and repented to Allah. However, till this day I feel guilty and worry that I might slip or that my sins are not forgiven? What steps do I take to being a better Muslim? How do I properly repent to Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (swt)?

The Answer:

I pray that you are well, your faith is strong and that your love of Allah is great. Such a question is a question of one seeking penance with Allah (swt), has hope in His mercy and fears His punishment. When I read your letter, I felt jealous because it is filled with the heartbreak of a sinner and the hope of a believer. These two qualities are key for a healthy robust relationship with Allah (swt).

It is important to know that no sin is greater than Allah’s mercy, no drama is greater than His benevolence and no mistake greater than His compassion, love and endurance to forgive those who turn to Him.

The Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) said:

“Allah has greater joy at the repentance of one His slaves when he turns towards Him than one of you would have over his mount, which, having escaped from him with his food and drink in the middle of the desert so that he has despaired of finding it and gone to a tree to lie down in its shade, suddenly appears standing by him while he is in that state, so that he takes its reins and then says out of the intensity of his joy, ‘O Allah, You are my slave and I am Your Lord!’ getting confused because of his intense joy.”

Allah (swt) links success with repentance

“Turn towards Allah, O believers, every one of you, so that perhaps you will have success,” (24:31)

We all stumble

The Prophet ﷺ said, “Everyone of you sins. And the best sinners are those who repent to Allah.” (sound hadith)

No sin is greater than Allah’s mercy

Abu Sa’id ibn Sa’d ibn Malik ibn Sinan al-Khudri reported that the Prophet of Allah ﷺ said, “Among those before you there was a man who killed ninety-nine people. He asked who was the most knowledgeable man in the world and was directed to a monk. He went to him and said that he had killed ninety-nine people and was repentance possible for him? The monk said, ‘No,’ so he killed him and made it a hundred. Then he again asked who was the most knowledgeable man on earth and was directed to a man of knowledge. He said that he had killed a hundred people, so was repentance possible for him? The man said, ‘Yes, who can come between you and repentance? Go to such-and-such a land, where there are some people worshiping Allah Almighty. Worship Allah with them and do not return to your own country. It is an evil place.’ So he went and then, when he was half way there, he died. The angels of mercy and angels of punishment started to argue about him. The angels of mercy said, ‘He came in repentance, turning with his heart to Allah Almighty.’ The angels of punishment said, ‘He has not done a single good action.’ An angel came in a human form and they appointed him arbitrator between them. He said, ‘Measure the distance between the two countries and whichever one he is nearer to, that is the one he belongs to.’ They measured and found he was nearer to the land to which he was going, so the angels of mercy took him.” [Agreed upon]

Thus, dearest sister, rejoice in Allah’s bounty, seek His mercy and have greater hope in His promise of forgiveness than you have in fearing your sins.

You made a mistake(s), you were young and you are struggling to get right with Allah. While you should feel guilty, and this is normal, when you have such feelings, turn to Him, cry and seek His bounty. Allah says in the Qur’an about one who turn to Him repenting: “You will find Him forgiving merciful.” Thus, when you feel saddened, pray and seek His mercy.

Imam al-Nawawi mentioned the conditions for repentance when he said:

“Scholars say that it is a duty to repent of every wrong action. If it is disobedience which occurs between a person and Allah and does not involve the right of another human being, repentance has three preconditions. The first is that one divest himself of disobedience. The second is that he regrets doing it. The third is that he resolves not to ever return to it. If one of the three is lacking, then his repentance is not sound. If it involves to another human being, repentance has four preconditions: these three and that he discharges his duty to the other person. If it is money or the like, he pays it to him. If it is a hadd-punishment because of slander and the like it, he gives him power over him or seeks his pardon. If it is slander, he undoes it, He must repent of all wrong actions. If he repents of some of them, the people of truth say that his repentance of them is sound, but he still has the rest. There is much evidence in the Book, the Sunna and the consensus of the Community about the obligation to repent.”

I would advice you to make sure that you surround yourself with good friends. Secondly, avoid mixing with the opposite sex and putting yourself in situations that may cause you to slip. I would be very cautious about things like chatting and other forms of communication that could compromise your faith. Be strong, hold to Allah’s promise and try and worship Him as best you can.

You are not alone, we are all in this struggle together and here for you.

Your brother


About the author

Suhaib Webb

Suhaib Webb

Suhaib Webb is a contemporary American-Muslim educator, activist, and lecturer. His work bridges classical and contemporary Islamic thought, addressing issues of cultural, social and political relevance to Muslims in the West. After converting to Islam in 1992, Webb left his career in the music industry to pursue his passion in education. He earned a Bachelor’s in Education from the University of Central Oklahoma and received intensive private training in the Islamic Sciences under a renowned Muslim Scholar of Senegalese descent. Webb was hired as the Imam at the Islamic Society of Greater Oklahoma City, where he gave khutbas (sermons), taught religious classes, and provided counselling to families and young people; he also served as an Imam and resident scholar in communities across the U.S.

From 2004-2010, Suhaib Webb studied at the world’s preeminent Islamic institution of learning, Al-Azhar University, in the College of Shari`ah. During this time, after several years of studying the Arabic Language and the Islamic legal tradition, he also served as the head of the English Translation Department at Dar al-Ifta al-Misriyyah.

Outside of his studies at Al-Azhar, Suhaib Webb completed the memorization of the Quran in the city of Makkah, Saudi Arabia. He has been granted numerous traditional teaching licenses (ijazat), adhering to centuries-old Islamic scholarly practice of ensuring the highest standards of scholarship. Webb was named one of the 500 Most Influential Muslims in the World by the Royal Islamic Strategic Studies Center in 2010.


  • Imam Suhaib, quick follow-up:

    for those who have committed mistakes in the past, does this ayah in Surat al-Furqaan apply to them or does it apply to non-Muslims? What do the scholars say in regards to this?

    68 And those who do not invoke with Allah another deity or kill the soul, which Allah forbidden except by right, and do not commit adultery. And whoever should do that will meet a penalty.
    69 Multiplied for him is the punishment on the day of resurrection and he will abide therein humiliated.
    70 Except for those who repent, believe and do righteous work. For them Allah will replace their evil deeds with good. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful.

  • Asalamu alaykum,

    The Prophet said, “The one who repents from sin, is like one who has no sin.”


  • ASAK Abdur-rahman,

    Their are two prevailing understandings of this verse and taking them hand in hand is also acceptable.

    #1 That indeed, as the literal understanding suggests, when one truly repents from a sin. Then Allah will not only forgive that sin but replace it in ones book of account as a good deed which is of course multplied by ten. This is most drastically seen in the revert although it also applies to a Muslim who repents from a given sin.

    #2 That naturally when someone truly repents the sign of this true repentence is that thier choice to repent- and no one can make a choice without the Tawfeeq of Allah- will naturally cause him or her to leave that sin and replace it with a good deed since the act of following bad with a good deed is the best way of repentence and just simply leaving a bad deed and not replacing it makes it easier to fall back into it. So those of true repentence will be known by thier disassociation with sin and constantly seeking piety. This is most apparent in a person who reverts to Islam and thus both of these meanings are usually applied to thier case although I am not aware of an opinion that this verse is specific to a new-Muslim rather it is general for all whether repenting from Kufr or sins.

    Wallahu a’lam

    Abu Majeed

  • Asalamu alaykum,


    There is a difference on that verses application. Some hold it to be applicable to those who accepted Islam after Kufur and others hold it to be for the sinners who repent to Allah. If we combine the large number of Hadith material that promises the prospect of forgiveness for both, I see no problem in expanding the beautiful promise of this verse to both parties.

    May Allah forgive us, accept us and give us thabat.


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  • Aoa Sir,

    I will be very grateful if you could request everyone to make dua for me and pray that Allah Almighty solves my problems and grants me peace and serenity.

    Izza Farooq

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