I work in an IT company here in California and we have pods where in 2 of us sit in one pod. The other guy who sits with me is a white American guy (basically a Christian). Whenever he sneezes someone from one of the other pods say ‘Bless You!’ and I do not want to say that, thinking that if I say bless you to him, I’d probably be sinning because of saying ‘Bless You’ to a person who is committing shirk, a greatest sin. Please advice what should I do/say in such circumstances.
Imam al-Bukhāri narrates on behalf of Abd al-Rahmān bin al-̓Araj from Abū Hurairah who said, “At-Tufayl ibn ‘Amrū came to the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, ‘Messenger of Allah, Daws is destroyed, has disobeyed and refused, so invoke Allah against them!’ People thought that he would invoke against them and he said, ‘O Allah, guide Daws and bring them (to us).'”
From the Genius of Imam al-Bukhārī
It is interesting to note that this is found in al-Bukhārī’s Sahih under the title “Supplications for the polytheists.” Al-Bukh̄arī in his genius placed that chapter after the chapter, “Supplications against the Polytheists.” Commenting on this Imam al-̓Aiynī mentioned that the wisdom behind al-Bukhāri’s organization was that the Prophet’s supplications for the non believers were two:
- For their guidance if he had hope for them and was not threatened by them
- Against them if they were harming him, threatening him and he lost hope in their returning to Islam. [̓Umdāt al-Qarī 14 /207]
Ibn Hajar mentions that some held that supplications for non-Muslims were abrogated by the verse, “You having nothing to do with this affair.” He responds by saying that most scholars did not concur with that opinion. Ibn Hajar wrote, “Supplications for them are permissible.” [Fath al-Bārī 11/196]
In Most Cases Our Supplications for Non-Muslims Should be For Their Guidance and Well Being
Dr. ̓Abdullah al-Sa’idī wrote, “There is no supplication against those [non-Muslims] who do not oppress and tyrannize from amongst them. In fact, there is nothing wrong with asking for their guidance; whether done in a general fashion like the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, did for Daws, or for a specific person like he did for the mother of Abū Hurairah.”
Saying bless you is a duā for goodness. Perhaps if you follow up your duā with getting to know him your duā, if Allah accepts it, will be a source of guidance. Let us not swerve from the Prophetic example. After all, it was the Prophet who asked Allah the most high to guide Umar or Abū Jahl. Before I became Muslim, a brother made duā for me for three years. After that time I became Muslim declaring my faith on his hands.
A Few Points to Ponder:
- We should pray for our non-Muslim friends and co-workers. The best gift we could give anyone is the gift of Islam
- Khatibs should make dua for the general guidance and well being of non-Muslims
- Khatibs should make dua for converts non-Muslim friends and family that Allah may guide them
- There is nothing wrong with supplicating against those who commit acts of aggression and oppression
Allah knows best