I still remember the desperation. In the deep disappointment which often follows self-reflection, I turned to my Creator to plead. I turned to plead – but not for what can be measured, bought, sold, or traded. It was desperation for a truer currency. With my flaws suddenly made open to me, I became desperate to be liberated from the tyranny of my own nafs (lower desires). I became desperate to be a better person.
And so, handing my heart to Allah (swt), I prayed that I might be purified. And while I had always held to firm faith that God is the Hearer of prayers, I never imagined when – or how – that prayer would be answered.
Soon after that prayer, I experienced one of the most difficult periods of my life. During the experience, I braced myself, and prayed for guidance and strength. But never did I see any connection to my previous prayer. It was not until that time had passed, and reflecting on it, I realized how I had grown. Suddenly I remembered my prayer. Suddenly I felt that the difficulty was itself the answer to the prayer I had made so desperately.
The words of Rumi explain beautifully: “When someone beats a rug with a stick, he is not beating the rug – his aim is to get rid of the dust. Your inward is full of dust from the veil of ‘I’-ness, and that dust will not leave all at once. With every cruelty and every blow, it departs little by little from the heart’s face, sometimes in sleep and sometimes in wakefulness.”
So often we experience things in life, and yet never see the connections between them. When we are given a hardship, or feel pain, we often fail to consider that that experience may be the direct cause or result of another action or experience. Sometimes we fail to recognize the direct connection between the pain in our lives and our relationship with Allah (swt).
That pain and adversity serves many purposes in life. Times of hardship can act as both an indication as well as a cure, for our broken relationship with our Creator.
Times of difficulty test our faith, our fortitude and our strength. During these times, the level of our iman becomes manifest. Adversity strips away our masks, revealing the truth behind mere declaration of faith. Hardships separate those whose declaration is true from those who are false.
Allah says: “Do the people think that they will be left to say, “We believe” and they will not be tested? But We have certainly tested those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars” (Qur’an, 29:2-3).
Hardships test us. But hardships can also be a blessing and a sign of Allah’s love. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: “Whenever Allah wills good for a person, He subjects him to adversity” [Bukhari].
And yet most people cannot fathom how adversity could possibly be good. Many do not recognize that hardship is in fact a purifier, which brings people back to their Lord. What happens to the arrogant who are suddenly put in a situation they cannot control? What happens to a man who finds himself stranded on the ocean in the middle of a storm? What happens when the ship that is ‘unsinkable’ becomes the tale of the Titanic?
These perceived misfortunes are in fact wake up calls. They humble. They shake. They remind us of how small we are, and how Great God is. And in that way they awaken us from the slumber of our deceptions, our heedlessness, our wandering, and bring us back to our Creator. Hardships strip away the veil of comfort from our eyes, and remind us of what we are and where we’re going.
Allah (swt) says: “…And We tested them with good [times] and bad that perhaps they would return [to obedience]” (Qur’an, 7:168). In another ayah, Allah (swt) explains: “Whenever We sent a prophet to a town, We took up its people in suffering and adversity, in order that they might learn humility.” (Qur’an, 7:94).
This lesson in humility purifies the human soul so much so that Allah (swt) comforts the believers in the Qur’an, assuring them that any pain they encounter is intended to elevate and honor them. He says:
“If a wound hath touched you, be sure a similar wound hath touched the others. Such days (of varying fortunes) We give to men and men by turns: that Allah may know those that believe, and that He may take to Himself from your ranks Martyr-witnesses (to Truth). And Allah loveth not those that do wrong.” (Qur’an, 3:140-142).
It is that very battle to purify the self which is the essence of the upward path to God. It begins with self-sacrifice, and is paved by the sweat of struggle. It is this path, which God describes when He says: “Oh mankind! Verily you are ever toiling on towards your Lord – painfully toiling – but you shall meet Him.” (Qur’an, 84:6).
masha allah nice article…………..
make me feel like it s addressing me …
We need to share our experiences so that we can learn and act wise when we go through a similar experience. As a student of knowledge , I would love to know the difficulties other students of knowledge have and how the deal with them.
Wow, this was really good. Really deep stuff
Thank you very much for your site, once again since I met you,
you have touched my heart deeply.
God bless you and all the people around you.
Your website is so wonderful. Each and every article touches my being and sakinah emanates from within. There is sooooo much to learn about this Deen, and this website is certainly doing its job in educating us. May Allah azza wajal bless you for your effort.
Ma’sha’allah, this was absolutely beautiful Sr. Yasmin!
I think it is your articles and Sr. Jinan’s that I have really benefited from most often, ; they have affected myself and other readers I’m sure, at the core ——> heart.
MAshAllah what a great article
Subhanallah, once again, awesome article!
Ma sha Allah. I like your quotation from Rumi. He said some good things.
Abu Yahya Suhaib bin Sinan (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “How wonderful is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this applies only to a believer. If prosperity attends him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him”.
[Riyad us Saliheen, Chapter on Patience, #27]
Can’t Allah(swt) magically get rid of all the dust… why must He(swt) beat. Kun fa qun and it does done… Allah is al- jabbar… SO I pray Allah may you never have to beat me for me to remember you. Take my dust away without pain, misery and sorrow.
May Allah grant me and all our ummah this prayer.
Very good article, reminds me of the saying that “Whatever Allah has brought you to, He will bring you through it too”.
Salaam, Sr. Yasmin, I love you for the pleasure of Allah!
I really really appreciate your clear, concise, relevant writing; may Allah let your words flow with ease and wisdom and reward you for them! Would you ever be willing or interested enough to do an article relating to morality and law? I hope you consider it, because you help clear up all my confusion regarding a topic by clearly writing it down in a few simple paragraphs… if not, then I look forward to whatever you write regardless. Please continue writing for the sake of Allah!
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Subhanallah. Alhamdulilah. Allahu Akbar. I love Allah.
subhanallah beautifully written may help me inshallah
what happens when one manhimself stranded on the ocean in the middle of a storm? What happens when the ship that is ‘unsinkable’ becomes the tale of the Titanic?
so true was watching titanic today
Mashallah..This is written beautifully!
Beautiful writing MashaAllah.. gave me strength to face the ongoing problems in my life.. I am sick and desperately need Allah’s mercy.. Pls do remember me in your prayers..
The idea of not getting too attached to worldly objects or you’ll get singed, reminds me of Icarus and him flying too close to the sun. His father crafted him waxed wings, but warned him not to fly too close to the sun, but he disregarded his warnings and fell to his doom.