When Sara met Ahmed, she immediately knew. He was everything she had always dreamed of. Meeting him was like watching the sun rise in the middle of a snowstorm. His warmth melted the cold. But soon admiration turned to worship. Before she could understand what had happened, Sara had become a prisoner. She became a prisoner of her own desire and craving for that which she adored. Everywhere she looked, Sara saw nothing but him. Her greatest fear in life was displeasing him. He was all she could feel, and without him happiness had no meaning. Leaving him made her feel as though her soul was being peeled from her very being. Her heart was consumed with only his face, and nothing felt closer to her than him. He became to her like the blood in her veins. The pain of existing without him was unbearable because there was no happiness outside of being with him.
But Sara thought she was in love.
Sara had been through a lot in her life. Her father walked out on her when she was a teenager, she ran away from home when she was 16, she battled drug and alcohol addictions. She even spent time in jail. But all that pain combined could not compare to the pain she would come to know inside this new prison of her own making. Sara became a captive inside her own desires. It was this captivity that Ibn Taymiyyah radi Allahu `anhu (may Allah be pleased with him) spoke of when he said, “The one who is (truly) imprisoned is the one whose heart is imprisoned from Allah and the captivated one is the one whose desires have enslaved him.” (Ibn al-Qayyim, al-Wabil, pg 69)
The agony of Sara’s worship of Ahmed was more intense than the agony of all her previous hardships. It consumed her but never filled her. Like a parched man in the middle of a desert, Sara was desperately pursuing a mirage. But what was worse was the torturous result of putting something in a place only God should be.
Sara’s story is so deep because it demonstrates a profound truth of existence. As human beings, we are created with a particular nature (fitrah). That fitrah is to recognize the oneness of God and to actualize this truth in our lives. Therefore, there is no calamity, no loss, no thing that will cause more pain than putting something equal to God in our lives or our hearts. Shirk on any level breaks the human spirit like no worldly tragedy could. By making the soul love, revere, or submit to something as it should only God, you are contorting the soul into a position that it, by its very nature, was never meant to be in. To see the reality of this truth, one only has to look at what happens to a person when they lose their object of worship.
On July 22, the Times of India reported that a 40-year-old woman committed suicide in her home by pouring kerosene over her body and setting herself on fire. The police said it appeared that the suicide was an “extreme step because she was unable to conceive a child over 19 years of marriage.”
Only days earlier on July 16, police reported that a 22-year-old Indian man “committed suicide after his girlfriend left him.”
Most people could sympathize with the pain of these people, and most would be heartbroken in the same position. But if having a child or a particular person in our life is our reason for being, something is terribly wrong. If something finite, temporary and fading becomes the center of our life, the raison d’etre (reason for existing), we will surely break. The imperfect object that we place at our center will—by definition—fade, let us down, or pass away. And our break will occur as soon as it does. What happens if, while climbing a mountain, you hang on to a twig to hold all your weight? Laws of physics tell us that the twig, which was never created to carry such weight, will break. Laws of gravity tell us that it is then that you will most certainly fall. This is not a theory. It is a certainty of the physical world. This reality is also a certainty of the spiritual world, and we are told of this truth in the Qur’an. Allah says:
“People, here is an illustration, so listen carefully: those you call on beside God could not, even if they combined all their forces, create a fly, and if a fly took something away from them, they would not be able to retrieve it. How feeble are the petitioners and how feeble are those they petition!” (22:73)
The message of this ayah (verse) is deeply profound. Every time you run after, seek, or petition something weak or feeble (which, by definition, is everything other than Allah), you too become weak or feeble. Even if you do reach that which you seek, it will never be enough. You will soon need to seek something else. You will never reach true contentment or satisfaction. That is why we live in a world of trade-ins and upgrades. Your phone, your car, your computer, your woman, your man, can always be traded in for a newer, better model.
But there is a freedom from that slavery. When the object upon which you place all your weight is unshaking, unbreakable, and unending, you cannot fall. You cannot break. Allah explains this truth to us in the Qur’an when He says:
“There is no compulsion in religion: true guidance has become distinct from error, so whoever rejects false gods and believes in God has grasped the firmest hand-hold, one that will never break. God is all hearing and all knowing.” (2:256)
When what you hold on to is strong, you too become strong, and with that strength comes the truest freedom. It is of that freedom that Ibn Taymiyyah, may Allah have mercy on him, said: “What can my enemies do to me? I have in my breast both my heaven and my garden. If I travel they are with me, never leaving me. Imprisonment for me is a chance to be alone with my Lord. To be killed is martyrdom and to be exiled from my land is a spiritual journey.” (Ibn al-Qayyim, al-Wabil, p.69)
By making the one without flaw, end, or weakness the only object of his worship, Ibn Taymiyyah described an escape from the prison of this life. He described a believer whose heart is free. It is a heart free of the shackles of servitude to this life and everything in it. It is a heart that understands that the only true tragedy is the compromise of tawheed (the doctrine of the Oneness of God), that the only insurmountable affliction is the worship of anyone or anything other than the One worthy of worship. It is a heart that understands that the only true prison is the prison of replacing something with God. Whether that object is one’s own desires, nafs (ego), wealth, job, spouse, children, or the love of one’s life, that false deity will entrap and enslave you if you make it ultimate. The pain of that bondage will be greater, deeper, and longer lasting than any other pain which could be inflicted by all the tragedies of this life.
The experience of Prophet Yunus `alayhi sallatu wa sallam (may Allah send his peace and blessings upon him) is so crucial to internalize. When he was trapped in the belly of the whale, he had only one way out: turning completely to Allah, realizing Allah’s oneness and his own human frailty. His du`a’ encapsulates this truth in such a profound way: “There is no God but You, glory be to You, I was wrong.” (Qur’an, 21:87)
Many of us are also trapped inside the belly of the whale of our own desires and objects of worship. It is our own selves which we become enslaved to. And that imprisonment is the result of putting anything where only God should be in our hearts. In so doing we create the worst and most painful of prisons; because while a worldly prison can only take away what is temporary and inherently imperfect, this spiritual prison takes away what is ultimate, unending and perfect: Allah and our relationship to Him.
Fabulous. This is a profound read, one that needs to be read again. May Allah swt continue to strengthen you and your pen!
WHOAH! Amazing article subhanAllah! I tried saving a few of my favorite quotes from it and ended up just pasting most of the article! beautiful jzk – one favorite “Every time you run after, seek, or petition something weak or feeble (which, by definition, is everything other than Allah), you too become weak or feeble.”
Sr. Yasmin! Once again, wonderfully written piece, always addressing a pertinent issue that applies to all of us to some degree or another. I absolutely love and enjoy your contributions to the site, keep them coming insha’allah! 🙂
Jazak’Allahu Khairan as always.
So very true. I think the key to get out of this prison is the Quran. Just have to keep reading it to understand it more and the key will appear inshallah.
Brother – I really like you article and I think the last paragraph really sums it up. The bit I am unsure as to what you meant is ‘this spiritual prison takes away what is ultimate, unending and perfect: Allah and our relationship to Him’ – can you elaborate on this.
You see for me, its a constant battle between recognising creation of Allah and an invention of mankind which. Ultimately all is the creation of Allah but today in the age of information technology we are constantly bombarded with inventions after inventions which makes our lives simpler, yet we spend more time toying with what the man has invented but fail to recognise that its Allah (set) creation of intelligence which makes it possible.
Beautifull article mashallah. Very well written and to the point. Mayy Allah bless the writer. I really like the example of sarah and ahmed.Wallahi this is a catastrophy not only in the non muslim world but also amongst our very own brothers and sisters. Pepole get so deep into this stuff that they cant even differentiate between day and night. And the worst case comes when the person you love turns out to be dishonest.Wallahi no doubt we should always feel our heart with love of Allah and not the materialistic love.
This is the second article I read of yours, the first one was “A Woman’s Reflection on Leading Prayer”. And Masha’allah both articles were amazing and thought provoking. May Allah accept all of this as good deeds.
Following the Du’aa of Muhammad (Peace be upon him): “O Allah show us the things as they are”, May Allah make all the Muslims among those who look at the reality of things not rely on the perception of things.
Excellent article sister yasmin, May Allah reward you immensly. Am interested in other related articles as I work with teenagers, please let me know if you have any.
Wa alaikum assalam Sister Salma,
Here are two:
masha’allah! what an insightful article!
[…] Escaping the Worst of Prisons When Sara met Ahmed, she immediately knew. He was everything she had always dreamed of. Meeting him was like watching the sun rise in the middle of a snowstorm. His warmth melted the cold. But soon admiration turned to worship. Before she could understand what had happened, Sara had become a prisoner. She became a […] […]
JazakiAllah khairan for this beautiful gift ukhti. I just wanted to point out that it should be Ibn Taymiyyah Rahimahullah ( May Allah have mercy on him)instead.
No disrespect intended sister, I suppose you had mistyped it or missed it out of haste.
ameen to the dua
oh ukhti! You rectified it yourself, didn’t notice. Apologies.
Wow,this really describes my situation. I know so many ppl that fell in the same trap! subhan Allah, it is so difficult to face these facts, cuz I only realize my shortcomings and the reality of my mistakes. Shaytan truly seeks to destroy us within so that we are no longer productive and become slaves to our desires. I love ur articles sister and they are helping me so much in my life. Jazakey Allaho kheir and may Allah make u a way to whatever u seek. Ameena
SubhanAllah, I am touched. Just what I needed Jazakallah khair for this great article
May Allah the Most High continue to reward your works, your work is a prescription for healthy living. Thank you
beautifully written! absolutely phenomenal! sheer reality trapped in good words! SubhanAllah! 🙂
the only true tragedy is the compromise of tawheed (the doctrine of the Oneness of God), that the only insurmountable affliction is the worship of anyone or anything other than the One worthy of worship. It is a heart that understands that the only true prison is the prison of replacing something with God. Whether that object is one’s own desires, nafs (ego), wealth, job, spouse, children, or the love of one’s life, that false deity will entrap and enslave you if you make it ultimate. The pain of that bondage will be greater, deeper, and longer lasting than any other pain which could be inflicted by all the tragedies of this life.
MashaAllah!!! Excellent article! Such a wonderful heart warmer <3
JazakiAllah khair for your beautiful article. May allah reward you.
subhanallah this woke me up n release me from my own prison. ya Allah please forgive me.i was wrong all this time.
if u find urself loving someone so much that u cant do away with her, what steps can one take 2 regain his or her balance? any prescribed check would be highly appreciated. jazakallahu khaira